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Years ago, a scumbag (fellow military soldier) tried to rape me.  I defended myself as I was taught in boot camp to do.  Needless to say, the culprit was NOT successful.  Plus he was sent to the hospital.  Thereafter, he was immediately brought up on charges.  I said that...to say this...going through that traumatic experience...the LAST thing on my mind was sex.  In fact, I went thru a period where I HATED men.  

If there is proof found on Kobe's accuser went and had sex with 2-3 guys AFTER she claims that Kobe raped her?  I would NOT believe her accusations.  
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I can probably come as close as most guys to understanding what you mean.

Before I met my ex wife, she was raped.  In fact, I have a beautiful step-daughter because of this (and I never treated her any different then I did my own son, I still love her dearly).  I was the first guy she dated after this, and it was almost 3 years later.  My late fiancee was date-raped, and it took her almost a year to date again after that.

I think to me, it is the fact that she slept with these men AFTER the rape, yet BEFORE she reported it to the police.  This is what I just can't explain or justify.  I might even accept having sex with somebody comforting afterwards, to try and make things more "normal".  But being with 2 or more guys in the 24-48 hours before she reported it?  As far as I am concerned, it blows all credability in my eyes.

BTW:  When I heard of this, I did not think "This is Kobe, he is innocent".  My response was just like when Mike Tyson, Rush Limbaugh, Martha Stewart, or anybody else famous does something like this.  I just shook my head, and thought to myself "Kobe, you dumb$@*%".

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She has even met one of the wives who told her "just send him home when you're done" :o
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Yeah, "Send him home with V.D."   :P

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However, what disturbs me is the revelations that the woman (possibly) had sex with 2-3 other men AFTER Kobe, and before she brought charges up to the police.  To me, this is disturbing.

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No matter how much of a skanky dirtbag Kobe's accuser is,I still blame HIM for not having restraint in dealing with the loser,and for disrespecting his wife by 'doing' golddiggers like her!
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Kobe's wife should DIVORCE his sorry arse!! Or give him the Bobbitt cure!

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Kobe's wife should DIVORCE his sorry arse!! Or give him the Bobbitt cure!
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Aw come on now.  Who can blame Kobe for this?  I mean he was out there getting his.  He's a "player".  He's gotta "hit it" with as many women as he can.  And he sure showers his lady with the "bling bling".  Heck, she should be thankful.  A player like him just HAS to get "booty" any way and any time he wants.  You can't expect him to have self control.  That would be "judgemental".  To be against Kobe is to be a "hater"!

...and this is the brand of soap that LOTS of people would try to sell you.    :-/

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Aw come on now.  Who can blame Kobe for this?  I mean he was out there getting his.  He's a "player".  He's gotta "hit it" with as many women as he can.  And he sure showers his lady with the "bling bling".  Heck, she should be thankful.  A player like him just HAS to get "booty" any way and any time he wants.  You can't expect him to have self control.  That would be "judgemental".  To be against Kobe is to be a "hater"!

...and this is the brand of soap that LOTS of people would try to sell you.    :-/
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I agree.  I couldn't imagine being married to a celebrity that would "hit it" with other women just because they threw themselves at him.  If I heard it was happening I would toss him out on his rear.  Just because the spouse is famous isn't a reason to allow that kind of behavior.  These women need to love themselves a little more and get out.

(Just the opinion of a woman whose marriage ended because he was cheating)

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Aw come on now.  Who can blame Kobe for this?  I mean he was out there getting his.  He's a "player".  He's gotta "hit it" with as many women as he can.  And he sure showers his lady with the "bling bling".  Heck, she should be thankful.  A player like him just HAS to get "booty" any way and any time he wants.  You can't expect him to have self control.  That would be "judgemental".  To be against Kobe is to be a "hater"!

...and this is the brand of soap that LOTS of people would try to sell you.    :-/
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Once you marry somebody he or she should be loyal. Why have sex some woman you just met?

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Once you marry somebody he or she should be loyal. Why have sex some woman you just met?
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Because it makes Kobe a "big man", a "playah".  You see, people like him have no sense of self-worth as a man, so they look to being "playahs" to make them feel like they have self esteem.

However, once his basketball talents wane, he will find that the people who idolize him for being a "playah" will be long gone and won't give a ratt's butt about him.

So he may as well "hit it" as much as he can today, because in a few years he will be left out with yesterday's trash.  >:(

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Because it makes Kobe a "big man", a "playah".  You see, people like him have no sense of self-worth as a man, so they look to being "playahs" to make them feel like they have self esteem.
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Yea, look at what being a "playah" got Magic Johnson.

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Yea, look at what being a "playah" got Magic Johnson.
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You gotta admit that a "playah" with a name like "Magic Johnson" getting A.I.D.S. is almost poetic.  :P

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Contracting HIV which leads to AIDS is a serious matter.  You would think athletes today would have learned Magic Johnson's situation.  No.  They still think it's cool and fashionable to be a "playah, playah".  If I were Kobe's wife I divorce him and get whatever I could get from the deal.  I would show him who is the TRUE golddigger.  

He put her thru too much embarrasment, pain and anguish not to walk away without something.  
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If I were Kobe's wife I'd get myself an A.I.D.S. test.  :P

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Kobe could have a lot of woman, why would he go for the one that says no. There is too much of a risk factor for him in his positions. He is a smart man & this is something a sick person with nothing to lose would do. End Quote

Why?  The answer is as old as time itself!

Why did Adam and Eve bite the apple?  I mean, they had EVERYTHING and were on Easy Street.

That which is forbidden is all the more attractive.

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There's a lot to be said for this point of view.  Kobe and his accuser are victims of the stupid messages our culture sounds both women and men about sex.
Men are encouraged to get it whenever, where ever, and as often as they can.
Women are encouraged by a bogus "liberation" attitude to "celebrate their sexuality."  They're encouraged by pop culture in general to 'ho it up.
Time and again this puts women, particularly women in their teens and 20s, into situations they can't handle.  They don't know they don't want to have sex until it's too late, and they feel they are being, or have been, raped.
There was a case a few years ago at U-Florida, Miami, in which a woman hired by a fraternity to be an exotic (ie. buck naked) dancer at a frat party.  She claimed she was raped.  She spent hours performing lewdly, and taunting drunken frat boys.  What did she think was going to happen?  I'm not talking about what SHOULD have happened, or what she DESERVED, I'm talking about what the LIKELY RESULT of her behavior would be.
These young women have no sense of danger.  Feminist theorists have been no help.  They have encouraged the attitude of "I can do what I want, but you've got to to what I say."  This attitude doesn't reflect reality.  When a person engages in risky behavior and steps into shadows the law can't see, the "victim" may not find redress in court.  NOW and other organizations cry foul whenever an accused rapist gets absolved, but they never change their tune.  They don't tell young women not to drink with strange men, for example.

In the old days, Kobe's handlers would never have allowed an unchaperoned 19 year old woman into his room.  But the old days were sexist and repressive, and treated women like children, right?  Well, yeah, but at least the old rules kept the dumb ones from hurting themselves.

As for Kobe, he has to pay the price for keeping his brains between his legs, even though he'll probably be foundnot guilty.  His arrogant and selfish behavior one day in Colorado will stick to his name until the day he dies.  He took a vow to his wife, that's one thing.  Another is that there are women out there who will make accusations against celebrities for personal gain.  Did his management ever brief him on that?
As in most cases of "date rape," there are no witnesses, it's her word against his.  Dropping out of view with a strange woman put his entire career in jeopardy, but he was too h*rny to consider this.

Aggressive behavior by men is rewarded by women.  I was called sexist in college for saying women shouldn't go to frat parties and jock jams.  When they go where the aggressive men are and drink and flirt, they send the message to these men to keep up their animalistic instincts because, obviously,  hot women prefer the crude to the courtly.   I said it didn't matter who thought I was sexist, because it wasn't about me.  Heck, maybe I shouldn't care when I hear about women getting raped, but I do, and every time I wish it didn't happen.