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Subject: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: #Infinity on 01/02/16 at 2:57 pm

Inspired by bchris02's post in the "7th year" thread, how would you rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life so far?

Here's how I would rate the 2010s for myself:

2010:  8.5/10 - I finish junior year of high school and become a senior in August.  I begin drinking coffee on my 18th birthday, which turns out to be one of the best lifestyle decisions I've ever made.  Like 2009, pop culture was still in the midst of an upswing, especially in terms of music and  video.  My grades were still improving, and I did excellently in track and cross country.  I first develop a crush on one of my fellow classmates, and we're both still on easy terms.

2011:  7.5/10 - An extremely difficult year to rate, due to being a combination of incredible highs and devastating lows.  On the plus, my grades were at their very best this year, I was more ambitious about my future than ever, I finally got addicted to the Nostalgia Critic over the summer, I met several new friends in college, and I enjoyed my classes to the utmost.  On the downside, things gradually went sour with my crush at the time to the point that she blocked me on Facebook, and the college adjustment was extremely tough for me, in part due to the former, but also because I wasn't used to East Coast weather, the workload was significantly greater than high school, I missed the great Mexican restaurants in San Diego, and I lived in the dorm that, for freshmen, was easily the farthest from campus.  Ultimately, I give this year more of a positive edge, because the bad things were also largely learning experiences for me; I probably changed more over the course of a single year in 2011 than any other.

2012:  5.5/10 - The first half of this year, especially around April in particular, was awful.  I tried to begin my gender transition early this year, but had to stop when my whole family started to completely panic.  The optimistic ambition that I had the previous year quickly plummeted, as I was terrified that either I'd never get to be the woman who I had known I was all along or I'd make the transition and never be accepted the same way again.  The second half of this year was much better, but still unremarkable for the most part.  I still missed San Diego whenever I was in college, and I wasn't interacting with other students nearly as much as I was my first semester of freshman year.  Popular culture took quite a slip in quality from the previous few years.  The Angry Video Game Nerd posted few videos due to production of the movie, The Nostalgia Critic got noticeably worse before going on hiatus for the last third of the year, Smosh started to become more commercial and less satirical, music began to evolve from the catchy early 2010s-style electropop into the generic EDM and trap styles that still exist to this day, cinema wasn't especially good, and people were starting to become overly obsessed with mobile social media.  The Mayan Apocalypse hysteria was also pretty annoying.

2013:  6.5/10 - It was during the spring semester this year that social attitudes seemed to become much more rancid than in the past and I found myself moving further towards the center of the political spectrum.  Students all over my school were banding together to protest the college administration for not addressing rape culture, with a particular focus on the school's greek life.  I never partied or drank alcohol, so I couldn't relate to the situation whatsoever; it just started to get really overwhelming to me.  Even many of my classes started to focus heavily on "rape culture" and "male privilege" to a degree I wasn't used to earlier in college.  On the plus side, I really enjoyed my classes this year and officially started my gender transition in April, after having performed in a Chekhov play.  People were also far more accepting of me when I came out to them than I would've ever expected.  The summer was also great, as my routine would be to go to an internship that I really enjoyed, followed by a run at Mission Gorge Trails and a meal at Rubio's.  This year was really the beginning of the hardships I've been dealing with recently, which is why I don't rate it higher, but as far as the past few years go, it was probably the best.

2014:  4/10 - I spent a great deal of this year fixating on my high school crush, who I became nostalgic over as I started to despise my current environment more and more.  Needless to say, nobody could relate to my situation, which was very hard on me and ultimately forced me to come home from school after only three weeks in the autumn semester.  I still had my share of fun times this year, including my discovery of lots of new music after finally having outgrown my love of eurobeat, which had dominated my playlist since November 2006.  I definitely learned to control my past attachments over the course of this year, but my increasingly loneliness and sensitivity made it hard for me to embrace life to the fullest the way I had at the beginning of the decade.  In November, my parents finally agreed to have me get facial feminization surgery, which has been a huge relief that I thank them for to this day, especially considering how adamantly opposed to it they were just earlier in the year.

2015:  3/10 - Putting aside the mountain of new music I bought and enjoyed, plus Back to the Future Day and some excellent movies, this was definitely the worst year of my personal life so far.  It was particularly defined by me getting my desperate hopes up, only to have them slashed immediately afterwards, and more absurdly every numerous time.  Whereas in 2011 I was strongly motivated by the belief that there is good in all people, now I feel much more cynical, that it's harder to trust anybody.  The current social environment certainly facilitates this feeling of mine, and can probably be blamed for the onslaughts of disappointments I had to put up with this year.  My parents continuously reminded me of how beautiful I have become since beginning my transition, but the severe concentration of rejection I had faced this year made it hard for me to fully grasp that, as I would start to criticize myself for things that I should obviously be more confident about.  I graduated from college in May, but am still figuring out a lot of personal details about my life.

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: musicguy93 on 01/02/16 at 4:25 pm

2010: 5/10 - Changed schools for my junior year. Was extremely socially awkward and insecure (especially when it came to my looks). Had a hard time making friends, let alone finding a girlfriend (which I still haven't). There was one friend I made this year, that's still my friend to this day. Unfortunately my grades were going down, compared to my first two years of high school (in which I made honor roll twice). I wasn't really involved in extracurricular activities outside of martial arts, and was unsure whether I wanted to go to college or not. I spent most of my free time watching videos on youtube, watching tv, or playing video games. It was a way for me to escape real life. I was struggling with depression, but I kept it inside, because I was going through my, "no one understands me" phase. When it came to pop music, I wasn't too into it.

2011: 6/10 - I'll have to say this year was slightly better than the previous year. I started getting into archery and video work, and I decided I would pursue Film/T.V. in college. My social skills were a little better, but I still had a long ways to go. I tried to go for my permit test, but failed twice (this was my fault as I had made no effort to study). At the beginning of my senior year, I tried to find a job, but I was not lucky at all. My self esteem took quite a punch. The school year was okay, at least the first semester anyway. I was taking a film production class which gave me college credit, and I was doing better in my classes. I had a crush on this girl, who was friendly at first, which brings me to my next semester in 2012.

2012: 3.5/10 - This was a terrible year for me. For whatever reason, the girl I liked, started acting cold towards me, which killed my self esteem for a long time. I was also facing pressures in regards to my future, and finding a college. Not to mention, I was feeling depressed with how my life was turning out, and feeling like I was behind my peers, and feeling like I was missing out in life. As a result, I started to fall behind for a brief period. After that, I put myself through extreme stress to pull through and graduate on time. Since it was obviously too late to apply to any universities, I instead applied to a highly acclaimed community college. I was able to graduate, but I was still in a very repressed emotional state, with not a chance to vent. I visited my dad for the summer, which was hands down, my worst summer. My dad lived in a small town in Michigan, which was just empty and boring. I spent my summer working at his MRI office (I was working under another manager, so it would look better on my resume). It was nice to get the experience, at the very least. When it comes to pop culture, I definitely noticed a sharp decline, especially toward the second half of the year. It was around the time the hipster trend began to grow in popularity, and the whole indie/folk style was getting big on the radio. And I hated it. My sister lived in place called Canton, and since my family couldn't afford a ticket back for me, it was decided that I would stay with her for the summer, and take my classes online. She didn't have any roommates at the time, so it was important for me to be there for financial support. It was nice to live with my sister, but I hated the area. People were generally cold, there was barely anywhere to walk, and it was just bland. We would sometimes visit Anarbor, but I also hated it there, since it was a very pretentious college town. It also didn't help that I had no job, and had to depend on financial aid to help pay the rent. I started counseling, and I was put on medication. It helped at first, to pull me from the verge of suicide. Christmas time was nice, because I got to visit my family, and it gave me a moment away from the emotional stress.

2013: 3/10 - Awful year for me. At least the first two thirds of the year. It started out okay in the beginning. My sister got a new roommate, giving me the option to move back. So I decided it was for the best, since online classes really weren't for me (I failed all my classes my first semester of college). I continued to take medication, and took my second semester of college at the local community college (a different one from the one that I initially enrolled in). All I can say, is this was a miserable time for me. The medication I was taking was eventually taking a turn for the worse, as I was experiencing extreme side effects, which effected my school work. As a result, I pulled out of the medication, which began my relapse period. It was a period of pure mental and emotional instability. I was feeling a strong bitterness and hatred toward the world. I hated school, I hated the college culture, I hated the place I lived in (I lived in Santa Cruz, which is a really awful place, socially), and I hated everyone, including myself. I was so angry that my life wasn't like everyone elses, that I was autistic, that I struggled with depression, that I didn't feel like everyone else. Eventually, along with suicidal thoughts, I was also feeling homocidal. Fortunately I still had enough of a conscious to realize I needed help, and I seeked counseling at my school. Needless to say, I feel my school counselor was able to help me much more than my previous one. Things eventually improved slightly in school, I passed some of my classes, and I was not feeling as angry. Eventually we moved (yes I still lived/live with my mom, don't judge  :)) to Silicon Valley, where I officially started college at the place I initially applied to. Now when it comes to pop culture, I just chose to disconnect myself. Fashion was getting worse, and the music was just nauseating. On the bright side, I did start to make an effort to look up underground bands (actually I started in 2012, but 2013 was when I really got into underground musicians). I enjoyed the environment of my actual college a lot more than the previous college. My social skills improved a bit, I was doing well in classes, and I was able to get a job. I still struggled with emotional problems and was still very insecure (especially compared to now), but it seemed things were taking an upturn toward the end of the year. I tried to pursue this one girl at school, but it failed. I was upset, but got over it fairly quickly. On the bright side, I got to meet some awesome people in my film classes, that I'm still friends with.

2014: 6/10 - The new year started good, I continued my classes and found a new job at a restaurant/bowling alley hybrid called Bowlmor. Unfortunately this particular job wasn't that great of an experience, and I quit after one month. I then got a job at Taco Bell. I had some insecurities, like not being invited to anything by friends, and not having success with girls. But overall I was much happier than in 2013. Then I met another girl, who I got along with, and I thought liked me, but of course I was wrong again. This really bummed me out, since I seemed to have no luck. As the new school year started, I quit my job at Taco Bell, and began working at Party City for the Halloween season. It was a chaotic job to say the least, but I met a lot of cool people, and took comfort in the fact that there were several rookies, besides me. Also my bosses were really cool. At school, things were better, despite me still being insecure about being a girlfriendless virgin. I will say that one of my problems was that I would only really go out for work and school. I didn't really pursue opportunities with my film skills (ie., internships, applying for universities, etc.). Though this school year was where I gave a lot of effort into transferring. I continued to meet newer friends, whom are still my friends now. And I also met a girl, whom is still my current crush. Something about her was different, I feel like something clicked. Unfortunately I choked and didn't end up asking her out on a date. I wasn't too worried, since it was my first realization that being in a healthier state of mind makes one more attractive.

2015 6/10: This year was truly a year of awakening for me, in my adult life. At the beginning of the year, I got a job at a Marshalls that was really poorly managed. I started the new year, which went pretty smoothly. I took a strength development class, which helped me realize the importance of exercise. Now I've been kind of slacking lately due to the holidays, but throughout the year, I have put much more importance in regular exercise, which has helped feel much more focused and confident. So when it comes to my emotional and mental state, things were better. My social skills were improving too. I got more into saying what I felt, and being honest, regardless of the consequence. So, why was this year given a 6/10? Well, I guess because I was going through a deep regret over the past 5 years, that kept me practically immobile. I wanted to really pursue my passions in life, but felt it was too late. I was also unemployed for much of the year. I was also becoming more disconnected with the growing SJW influence on campus. Eventually I realized, that it's easy to avoid SJWs, as long as I avoid the political science/sociology types. During the summer I quit my job at Marshalls, and visited my Dad for the summer to work in his new deli carry out place. I feel like it was a great experience, to help me adapt to pressure, and it really taught me that no task is impossible. As the year drew to a close, I was becoming more anxious about finding a job, thinking about my future, and building my skills. I realized, if I focused my energy on progressing as an individual, all the negative things in life will start to seem meaningless. I made the decision not to go to college next quarter. I realized that I needed time to grow as a individual

And thus, my new found drive to change my life has brought me into a new era in 2016. I really want to start taking action with my life. I realized I can have the life that I desire, I just need to start working at it. I want to spend less "empty time", as it were, and more time really living life at it's fullest.

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: TheKid99 on 01/02/16 at 4:36 pm

I sort of posted what bchris02 did before he posted it but I will update mine to include alot more details about my personal life.

2010: 9/10 Still lived in my huge house and did not know anything about a foreclosure. Really listened to a lot of pop music and was generally very happy. I was becoming more aware of myself and how I should be a good person. 2010 was the first real year I really got into pop culture. I started watching alot of Nickelodeon and a little bit of Disney Channel. This was the year I found out that I had autism and it was rough on me but I sort of knew I had it beforehand.

2011: 4/10. Man what a sucky year. Moved, switched schools and was generally unhappy. I found out about the fact we were getting foreclosed on in March of 2011. This first part of the year was made worse about my first big gastric issue in April, which forced me to be out of school for about a week. This year I really started watching Teen Nick and became fascinated with older TV shows that used to air. the second half was a bit better because I started making a few friends and the new school seemed better than the one I was in for five years. This year is the last one I would consider myself a child.

2012: 8/10 What a very happy and great year for me. Went places, did fun things listened to a lot of pop music(even if it was crappy) and was enjoying life a little bit. 2010-2012 I generally did not have a social life. However this year did have downsides. The school I went to became unbearable and we switched in early March. After a month out of school my mom decided to online homeschool me and my twin brother. However we just werent doing good to be homeschooled so my mom decided to switch us at the end of the year. My family started having issues as I finally became accustomed to the fact that we were not moving back to our old house and I would have to share a cramped bedroom with my brother. I also gained a sizable amount of weight this year. So it was a great year but not perfect. The Newtown-Sandy Hook shootings in December really borught to my attention that I could die at any moment and not to take life for granted.

2013: 0.5/10. This was my worst year ever in my life. ALOT of personal problems, family issues, gained a lot of weight, didn't go to as many places was mostly at home. I was very very sad. The year started with a lot of optimism. I moved to a school I really liked, I started my newspaper route. However by April it all started crashing down. The Boston Marathon Bombing made me scared that we had not after all won the war on Terror. My dad had a bunch of health issues in April with a blocked artery and other personal things. We found out he had the early stages of Heart Disease ontop of him having Type 2 diabetes. This year was rock bottom. My dad quit his job in disgust because he did not like working their and it was causing him too much stress. My parents were both unemployed from April until December of 2013. Then in the summer we switched schools.... again but the new school which I started in August was a lot of fun. We went white water rafting and to Washington DC. However I was bullied unrelentlessly. My parents seperated in September which made things hell. However by December they got back together and they have been together ever since. December was the turning point of this year. My parents both got jobs and we were finally getting out of our financial hole dug from my parents being unemployed. This year was a very bad year but it was a necessary one to transition to better things. This was the year I started becoming nostalgic for older tv shows and pop culture.

2014: 9/10. Started out unhappy with everything in my life but eventually got over it. Finally entered high school. Made a lot of friends. Enjoyed music from this year mostly except for Fancy and most of the Trap music. Ended on a high note but I could see trouble brewing. In 2014 I was very happy. I was graduating from middle school and moving on to high school. In early 2014 I was trying to get over what happened in 2013 and I started to. By May I was starting to have an optimistic point of view. Our family was finally getting out of the 2013 mess and we were finally after three years relatively financially stable. That summer was a great one as I just enjoyed life. August-December I made a lot of friends, my grades were really good, I was happy about life. But by the end of it I was seeing some signs of what 2015 would offer. My gastric troubles started popping up again and I could see that some of my friends were not good ones.

2015: 7.0/10. This year started very bleak. Even though we had a snow week in Febuary which was pretty awesome being off school that long I was not happy at all. I started Football with the team in January and it turned out I really was not good enough to play even though I had the body type, so I instead became the waterboy. I lost a friend in Febuary which was very tough on me. March was a turning point and I was starting to get a little happier. January-March was just one of what I would desribe as limbo, like it felt like nothing good was happening. In January and Febuary I made two new friends. One I am still really really good friends with and the other I lost in August-September. April-July were some very happy days and I was happy. The 2015 Florida vacation was very nice and I had a lot of fun but as soon as I got home, my life started turning sour. Early August- Late October I can only describe as pure hell. Lost my best friend in a huge fight, had gastric problems which were really horrible, I even threw up on the first day of my sophomore year. Then my great grandma died which was really all of a sudden in late September and that only made things worse. However by early November I was starting to get happier in my life, my friend I made in Janury we became pretty close and I was happy. December was a great month for me and really ended my year on a high note.

Thank you for making this thread!

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: Baltimoreian on 01/02/16 at 9:35 pm

2010: 8/10 It was like the best year for this decade to me. I graduated elementary school, got Super Mario Galaxy 2 and Super Smash Bros. Brawl for the Wii and there was other shhh that could take long. However, I did get disappointed over Cartoon Network's rebrand, since it ruined the channel for me. January to June 2010 kinda felt like an extension to 2009 in my perspective. This could be the first year where almost everything tried to felt like the 2010s, but I was still happy most of the time.

2011: 6.5/10 This year was okay. It felt average. Although, it kinda sucked in the later months because of Steve Jobs' death. The fact that my role model was dead felt really depressing to me. I was saddened on that October day when he passed away. It was also the first year when I started to have puberty changes.

2012: 1/10 It was like armageddon to me throughout it. Around May, I was forced to go to a goddamn game at Citi Field to watch the Mets play. It was boring as shhh and I questioned on how people found baseball to be exciting. When I was in day camp during the summer, I kinda got into fights. His friends were also assholes. But he forgave me a year later. But I wouldn't give a fu(k about him. Pop culturally, it sucked because of how bad the music was. Especially with the George Zimmerman, Aurora Dark Knight and Sandy Hook shootings that were just freaking terrible. And what's worse, it's that people thought the world was going to fu(king end on December 21st, which was my birthday. It's a bit annoying that I was born in December, but thanks to that Mayan bullshhh, they thought the world was going to end on that day. I know it was a joke, but almost everybody took it seriously. 8th grade was also terrible, since I was really lonely at the time. There was barely anybody to socialize with, and I had to deal with an annoying student who couldn't shut the fu(k up. Thankfully, he moved to Florida after I graduated from middle school. I would never be nostalgic over this year. NEVER!

2013: 5/10 Although, it was like an improvement to 2012, it was still a living hell. It was depressing as shhh when I had to do a godawful Jungle Book play. What's worse was that I had to sing retarded songs, do stupid shhh and many more. Thankfully, the summer of 2013 was okay. I didn't really got pissed that much, but I didn't care. It was also the year when I started to get nostalgic over the 2000s, but not that much. Also, in the first semester of my freshman year, there was this kid that I talked to a lot. And it was really cool. Sadly, I never got to see him ever since December of '13. Internet-wise, it was the first year where I got trolled. I'm not going to mention the girl's name, since she'll get pissed at me and track me down here. But she never stop replying to me about Uncle Grandpa. I tried to tell her that the show sucks, but she thinks I was extremely biased (which is true) and praised that the show was awesome. And if you were wondering how I known her, I was a Mr. Enter fan and hated anything that modern Nickelodeon and Cartoon Network aired.

2014: 5.5/10 This was the year where I kinda screwed up on the Internet. I took almost everything seriously on this site called Newgrounds, and it pissed me off during that summer. I quit using the site during November or December of that year, and I regret posting on their forums ever since. But outside the Internet, I was getting more nostalgic towards the 2000s and watched old DVDs of shows that I used to watched as a kid. Really great shhh if I may add.

2015: 7/10 It was the best year for me Internet-wise. I met a lot of people who were also nostalgic for the 2000s (e.g. mqg96) and I started to post here and on Personality Cafe during the summer of the year. Pretty amazing conversations we had. It was really nice. Pop culture wise, it wasn't really that good, but that's what I felt ever since 2012.

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: 2001 on 01/03/16 at 12:20 am

@Infinity - Your story really touched me. Transphobia pisses me off so much. The homophobia of the 2000s was incredibly difficult on me, and to hear that some people are still going through the same thing if not worse is an injustice. I hope you find greater acceptance as the years go by. No one deserves hate for their natural state of being. :'( If it makes you feel better; I also felt sometimes the hate was never going to end. But life has its strange ways and homophobia practically disappeared over the years very quickly. Let's hope transphobia meets the same fate. Also great to hear that you graduated; hopefully you find the job of your dreams :)


@musicguy93 - Great to hear that you've found hope despite the rocky start to the decade, and not a bad choice by taking some time off college! (or is that a permanent leave?) I grew a lot intellectually in the summers where I decided to not go to school/work as well. Some of the best things happen when you take time to discover yourself :)


@TheKid99 So sorry to hear about your great grandmother :( I'm sure she was a great person; cherish those memories you had with her. And my possibly terrible advice, take it or leave it, with the high school friend situation is to not sweat it! You really do have your whole life (or at least your whole 20s) to make really close and life-long friends. I and many others didn't make many friends in my first few years of high school either. Hopefully the friends you made this year are for keeps :) Also good luck with the health issues.


@Baltimorean LOL I remember when I was browsing Gamespot and other gaming sites around 2006-2007. It was easy to get pissed, especially when people insulted my god NINTENDO. So many trolls on that site. It's great you found a lot of online friends that can relate to you. Online friends also got me through high school and helped me keep my sanity.  ;)

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: #Infinity on 01/03/16 at 12:26 am


@Infinity - Your story really touched me. Transphobia pisses me off so much. The homophobia of the 2000s was incredibly difficult on me, and to hear that some people are still going through the same thing if not worse is an injustice. I hope you find greater acceptance as the years go by. No one deserves hate for their natural state of being. :'( If it makes you feel better; I also felt sometimes the hate was never going to end. But life has its strange ways and homophobia practically disappeared over the years very quickly. Let's hope transphobia meets the same fate. Also great to hear that you graduated; hopefully you find the job of your dreams :)


The struggle has been far more in terms of finding love than simply being respected.  I'm only attracted to other women, so it's the absolute worst feeling when I suspect a fellow queer woman decides she's not romantically attracted to me simply based on this past stain of mine.  I get the impression a lot of them are too afraid to admit they wouldn't date me for that, even though in real life I pass excellently as a woman.

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: bchris02 on 01/03/16 at 1:07 am


@Infinity - Your story really touched me. Transphobia pisses me off so much. The homophobia of the 2000s was incredibly difficult on me, and to hear that some people are still going through the same thing if not worse is an injustice. I hope you find greater acceptance as the years go by. No one deserves hate for their natural state of being. :'( If it makes you feel better; I also felt sometimes the hate was never going to end. But life has its strange ways and homophobia practically disappeared over the years very quickly. Let's hope transphobia meets the same fate. Also great to hear that you graduated; hopefully you find the job of your dreams :)


Not everywhere unfortunately.  Living in a small, Bible belt town, the homophobia here is unfathomable to those who have never lived here or experienced it.  I am gay but have had to go back in the closet in 2012 after moving home.  It's too dangerous for me to be out here.  On top of that, my dad pastors a church that believes the Bible demands the death penalty for homosexuality and that its a sin worse than murder.  After moving back in 2012, I spent two years in sexual orientation change therapy as demanded by my family.  Of course, it simply made things much worse.  While things have definitely improved in the coasts and in the urban areas, the rural heartland still has a long way to go.  While I totally cannot imagine the trans struggle, I empathize with it because as a gay person, I can relate to the isolation, emotional turmoil, and persecution you must face.

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: 2001 on 01/03/16 at 2:19 am


The struggle has been far more in terms of finding love than simply being respected.  I'm only attracted to other women, so it's the absolute worst feeling when I suspect a fellow queer woman decides she's not romantically attracted to me simply based on this past stain of mine.  I get the impression a lot of them are too afraid to admit they wouldn't date me for that, even though in real life I pass excellently as a woman.


Wow, that is really messed up. I knew transphobia in the gay community was a problem, but I had no idea it was that rampant. I hope you have a successful search this year, and when you find a person you love, at least you will know she's for keeps. Hopefully you find that person.


Not everywhere unfortunately.  Living in a small, Bible belt town, the homophobia here is unfathomable to those who have never lived here or experienced it.  I am gay but have had to go back in the closet in 2012 after moving home.  It's too dangerous for me to be out here.  On top of that, my dad pastors a church that believes the Bible demands the death penalty for homosexuality and that its a sin worse than murder.  After moving back in 2012, I spent two years in sexual orientation change therapy as demanded by my family.  Of course, it simply made things much worse.  While things have definitely improved in the coasts and in the urban areas, the rural heartland still has a long way to go.  While I totally cannot imagine the trans struggle, I empathize with it because as a gay person, I can relate to the isolation, emotional turmoil, and persecution you must face.


Your dad is a pastor?? Wow, I thought my religious parents were insufferable. I feel like I can relate to where you're coming from with the religious parents and living in homophobic society (Canada in the 2000s, not as bad as the bible belt but still pretty bad). But it seems playing on hard mode compared to what I have/had. You need to get out of there man, ASAP. Sexual orientation change therapy?? I've heard horrible horror stories out of there. I can't believe people think that stuff works.

Hopefully you can get out of there soon, and me as well. Whatever the secular equivalent of praying is, I'm doing it for you guys. We need to stick together.

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: 2001 on 01/03/16 at 2:25 am

Here's my own.

2010 (9/10)
- I kept a journal this year, so I know this year vivedly! The homophobia of the 2000s that kept me from making social contact with most other straight males was long gone by now.  It was my last semester in high school, and I was overly obsessed with making friends. I usually had the highest or second highest grade in my classes, so I had plenty of notriety, unforutnately my social anxiety would always come in the way of making even closer friends with people who clearly wanted to be friends with me (looking retrospectively).  Prom night was amazing fun (but not "essential" like my HS teachers told me) and by graduation I had more friends than I thought I made. I also volunteered at a fundraiser in the form of a music-fashion-talent show, where all proceeds went to the local children's hospital, which does a lot of great research. It was very hard work setting up the show and being treasurer, but I made great friends with my peers and with a lot of the teachers. I was very proud of myself. Unfortunately, I didn't get accepted into the university programs I wanted -- my counsellor gave me really bad advice and I was short by a credit! I took summer school Biology, which was actually very fun. I moved into a new city, the one I'm in today, and got a job managing the online database and stock of a local grocery store. It was difficult at first, I did not like my boss; but eventually I got the hang of things and also made my best friends at this job. Sometimes I wonder why I quit and went to university! Missing university by a year sucked, but overall, as it says in my journal, "these days have been the best of my life".

2011 (10/10) - I was working at the aforementioned job for the first 3/4ths of the year. Not much to say there. I got accepted into the program I wanted in spring, and also got a $8,000 scholarship, when my tuition was only $6,500! Orientation week was eye opening; it was actually life changing in a way. It was the week I forgot I had any social anxiety, talking to people and complete strangers came very natural to me. Just the fact I could do that was blowing my mind. I made many friends who're still my friends to this day, and my social skills throughout university have been great ever since. My first semester in university went grand. I skipped class more often than I should, but the classes were very easy and I got good grades.

2012 (10/10) - Honestly, not much to say about this year despite the 10/10. It is like a continuation of where the end of 2011 left off. In September, I actually made really good friends with one of my profs, and he took me under his wing as his assistant researcher. Best job I ever had, the pay was amazing and the hours were super flexible. Unlike my other job I actually felt I was doing something useful and didn't feel I was really working "under" anyone, even though me working under someone was right in my job title LOL. My prof/boss was the best, and the grad students were awesome people.


2013 (5/10)
- January was the great 10/10 that continued on from 2011/2012. In the middle of February, just as reading week was beginning and I was looking forward to a week of relaxation, my then 7-year old sister suffered a seizure that would last two hours. It still haunts me to this day, sometimes I get very scared that my sister is suffering a seizure again and I barge into her room to find she is completely okay. She was hospitalized, they took a CT-scan and MRI and found a tumour in her brain; she was diagnosed with lymphoma/brain cancer. Over the coming weeks, she lost her ability to walk, her ability to talk, her ability to see, and lost her motor skills. She fell into a vegatative state/coma by the beginning of March. A few days later, the doctors told us the she has 2 days to live, 14 days max, and we should say our final goodbyes. I could not stop crying for days. I even broke out in the middle of conversation at school. Embarassing. And another time a old lady saw that I was trying really hard to hold back tears on the bus, and I had to let it out. Extra embarassing. I quit my job and went on academic leave, some of my profs were very supportive, and others wouldn't or couldn't budge and I had to go through bureaucratic hell before I could drop their courses (it was past the drop deadline). I had no energy for that; mourning zapped all my energy. I got an F on all courses I couldn't drop, which made me lose my scholarships. Despite the hardships, there were times I felt some hope. I had family, family-friends and friends from all over the country come and visit. I felt closer to them than ever, and it was comforting to mourn together; better than mourning alone. My cousins from Texas came over in the summer, and we had a really great time. My sister started making her recovery in the summer/fall, she got out of her coma. Then she started seeing. Then she started laughing. Then she started speaking, albeit she still speaks only syllable-by-syllable to this day. She got transferred to another hospital to help her with her physio and to recover her motor skills. I couldn't go back into school because I rotated with my parents to stay and babysit at the hospital. Staying at the hospital was and still is a huge pain in the ass, nothing is more tiring. By November, my sister was allowed to return home and I could feel my life returning to normal. Overall, a year with very dark undertones (I had similar experiences in the 2000s, so this wasn't the first time life got so dark), but it had silver linings of hapiness, the type of happiness you can only get in the darkest of hours. You know who your real friends are when they meet you at the hospital when you haven't showered in days and are so bored out of your mind that you cease to be an interesting person.

2014 (8/10) - Started going back to school in January. My sister still had huge mobility issues, so I had to be at home at 3PM everyday before she got home from school. This had an impact on my school work, and also meant I couldn't go back to my job. I had forgotten a lot of the stuff I learnt 1st/2nd year of univeristy, and all my friends had moved on, so it was a big reset. My grandma also passed away in the beginning of the year, my last surviving grandparent. I was extremely close to her; she lived with us and she was like a second mother to me. The halls still feel really empty sometimes. Despite the rocky start, my grades were average and I actually found time for a lot of personal intellectual interests this year. I also had a lot of fun during the time the Sochi olympics were airing. We went to downtown Toronto and had a huge party when Canada won gold in ice hockey. In the summer of 2014 I decided to stay at home instead of getting a job, and this was one of the best decisions I made. I started learning programming, and I started exercising. I also got my G licence which meant I could officially drive highways; I started going out a lot more. Overall a very varied summer that would shape strongly the person I am today (more self-directed).

2015 (9/10) - The school year was going really great, better than last year despite the fact I still had to be home early. That was until the TAs went on strike in March! So we had about 6 weeks off while the strike was ongoing, which I used mostly for socializing with my friends. The weird thing I realized this year is that I actually really hate socializing. Something about it makes me feel tired. For whatever reason, I started to say things like "I have no friends", "I don't have a life", even though those things aren't true, but for some reason I wished they were, and I felt shameless about it. For me this marks the transition from my adoloscence into my early adulthood. I don't really judge my life by the state of my social life anymore, but more how my personal goals and achievements are going. Not to say I hate people, no, I love homo sapiens! I just don't put my social life on a pedestal as the all-marker of happiness like I used to. I went into the summer months with a very intellectually-focused mindset. I learnt a scripting programming language, which has greatly improved my quality of life. I started learning French. I studied ahead in school, bought a lot of textbooks off Amazon and started self-studying. No partying at the pub for me. There were times I felt unproductive and crappy, but I would rebound soon enough. I went to Orlando at the beginning of September; all-expenses paid thanks to the Children's Wish Foundation, who paid it for my sister because of her cancer. It was so much fun, and I want to take time to thank the organization and its donors. My sister never vacationed in her life because she's always in and out of the hospital and travel health insurance is so expensive, and I'm so happy for her that she got the chance to meet her favourite Disney characters and also go to Universal. *_* In the November of this year, my parents renovated the house so that my sister could be more independent. I don't have to come home at 3PM anymore! My grades hit the highs of 2011/2012 and I'm very hopeful for next year with this newfound free time.


I also felt my first signs of aging this year, at the ripe old age of 22/23. I'm starting to bald, and fast. I won't be young forever! But before you go completely bald, your hair goes through a nice-looking phase, and I find it hard to keep the girls off me. If only guys would chase me like that LOL ;D I felt really insecure about balding at first, but when I opened up about it to my friends, I found that some of my friends were going through the same thing but were too embarassed to speak up. Now I feel a lot more secure, knowing I'm not alone balding this early. I've come to accept it, though I can't deny that I sometimes panic as my forehead gets progressively bigger.

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I think I've said this before, but "the 2010s have been good to me". This decade is easy mode compared to the 2000s (with the exception of 2013, but even 2013 is far from the rock-bottoms I hit in the 2000s). I still have a lot of growing up to do, namely accepting my sexuality and coming out to my super-religious parents. Absolutely not looking forward to that though; I'm preparing for the worst including them disowning me, so I have to be independent and living on my own before I do anything like that. And even before that, I have to accept my own sexuality before I can expect other to accept it. I still feel very ashamed about it, and something inside me still feels like it will go away sometime soon, or that I might be a little bit bi and it might save me. I think I can add going to the local "Gay people of colour" chapter at my university to one of my 2016 resolutions, but like I said I have difficulty accepting that I'm even gay sometimes :(

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: LyricBoy on 01/03/16 at 9:26 am

2010 - awesome
2011 - sucked
2012 - sucked
2013 - awesome
2014 - sucked
2015 - awesome

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: Philip Eno on 01/03/16 at 12:55 pm

Any year or decade is good when you are blessed with God's Gracious Gift of being alive.

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: Baltimoreian on 01/03/16 at 12:55 pm


@Baltimorean LOL I remember when I was browsing Gamespot and other gaming sites around 2006-2007. It was easy to get pissed, especially when people insulted my god NINTENDO. So many trolls on that site. It's great you found a lot of online friends that can relate to you. Online friends also got me through high school and helped me keep my sanity.  ;)


Yeah, I didn't really talk about games that much on gaming boards such as IGN. All I did was talk about random crap for a few months, and then somebody trolled me. I barely use the site nowadays to post there.

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: TheKid99 on 01/03/16 at 3:50 pm


@TheKid99 So sorry to hear about your great grandmother :( I'm sure she was a great person; cherish those memories you had with her. And my possibly terrible advice, take it or leave it, with the high school friend situation is to not sweat it! You really do have your whole life (or at least your whole 20s) to make really close and life-long friends. I and many others didn't make many friends in my first few years of high school either. Hopefully the friends you made this year are for keeps :) Also good luck with the health issues.

Thank you that means a lot. I guess I find friends in my life important because I really did not have any when I was a child. I really hope the friend I reconnected with last year is still my friend by the end of the year because he is a great guy to be friends with. Thank you for the well wishes!

My Great Grandma truly was a great person. She was nearly 100 when she died, exactly 2 months away from being 100 on September 23rd. She was sort of well known in the Cincinnati community as she made her trucking company into what it could be. She gave a lot to charity and was a very devout and purely good person. It was great going to her funeral in October and seeing all of those people whose lives she impacted, it inspires me. At least we recordered her in April of 2007 telling us stories that we all love so we can have those stories in our mind even after she is gone. Thank you.

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: 80sfan on 01/03/16 at 3:57 pm

2010-2014:  ;D  ;D  ;D

Subject: Re: Rate every year of the 2010s for your personal life

Written By: Arrowstone on 01/03/16 at 4:11 pm

2010: 7/10. I graduated high school and finally felt free to go; school wasn't nice on me. I could learn well, but my social skills were poor; all those years there were some bullies; they were the worst bullies. They did not do severe things to me, but all those subtile, nasty stuff. One day I was done, and I got in a fight with one, punching him right on his chest; after that they seemed not very interested in bothering me. I was also free from many others who I thought were friends, but in the end, I felt hurt that they in fact had often just ignored me. Being ignored is even a worse feeling than being bullied though. So, I went on to college and finally, people were more relaxed; but of course, after time, small groups of friends developed, and I feel like I was not able to connect well. I did join a choir though, and am still a member there.

2011: 6/10. Life went on as usual, but right in January, being in class, I got an instant crippling feeling that I wasn't majoring in the right course. So after summer I started a new major, which I am happy about happened.
Also, there happened a significant thing. I was with some people at a drink, and there, a girl, (I think she was lesbian) , asked me if I was gay. Just straight like that, with everyone  around me. Why did she ask that? I denied, because I was not prepared for that question. For years, I had known that, but I always kept that secret; no wonder, at school it was not an option, also not in urban western Europe, where I reside. But I started to think; she must have had some clues that I could be,  why else would someone ask that? If she could see, could others see I was? What happened was, that I let the thoughts in. What I knew was true, I acknowledged being true. Did I accept it being true? I don't know, maybe. But then a new kind of situation emerged. Having acknowledged my sexuality meant that I allowed that part in my identity. It also meant that this part of my identity was not the same as I pretended to others or as how others perceived me. It was only now become a real secret, and only then I realized I had to tell people, otherwise it would really be bad for my health.

2012: 8/10. I am fond of 2012; though I had the issued explained like before, generally, it was as bright as the coloured trousers were. I did well in college, and even took on more courses. I just wanted to work and work, with hindsight, maybe it was just to forget my problems. It was almost as if I was manic. Also I fell in love very hard. Woops! I did not know  what to do. I could do nothing, because I was held back by the closet. That aches, having someone so close to you, but feeling like they're unreachable. Let's say I was fond of wine and whiskey at the time.

2013: 7/10. Again, this year was quite bright. I continued working very hard, but I remained in a limbo. Did I have friends? I didn't know. Again, people did form friend groups, and again, I did never belong to one; only on the margins. It felt not fair, but at the same time I knew that it was my fault too. How often did I ditch invitations because of social anxiety? How often did I keep people at a distance because I was scared they would know my secret? At least I went on vacation by myself. And I knew I was able to do that.

2014: 4/10. Well, 2014 was the year from hell. I wasn't able anymore to go to college, because social anxiety really went to  peak; I was scared to see teachers, scared to see other people, mostly because I thought they would say that I had failed. At the same time, I still had my secret, and I still drank to just numb myself. I went to the psych, because clearly, I needed help. It was also difficult to remain happy, because the world news, which I follow way to much, seemed to go worse and worse.

2015: 7/10. Right, 2014 was the bottom year, and things became slightly more relaxed in 2015. First, I came out to my parents in January. The energy was too much to keep it longer. I shut off my phone for a week to prepare myself. Then, I just thought  I found the right day to tell them. When I heard Freddie Mercury on the radio, I knew for sure. And that went ok. My family knows now, and it's ok.
The anxiety persisted though, and it became clear I was somewhere on the autism spectrum. Well, had I only known that earlier! It really does explain a lot, right? Eventually I went  back to college, taking only a few courses. I still drink, though less than before. I got a small apartment for myself. I started to workout. So life seemed to get better! Still though,  I am in the closet outside of my family, and the anxiety remains. I also still feel love for the same person as in 2012,  and really should do something.

Good, there we are now. Lots of things to work on this year! Though this is not a psych forum; I just read all your stories and then I just had to spill it all out! :-)
it's good to see everyone had his/her positive moments and strugglings to deal with. And really, we are all much stronger than we tend to think.

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