Granted it's better when the feeling is mutual, but when it's not, what's better...

Being the one who loves, or being the one who is beloved?

I think it was better when I was the one who loved, and not loved in return, because in that situation I did not have to feel guilt about someone else's pain.

Being the beloved, but not returning that feeling is a very uncomfortable situation.

If the feeling wasn't mutual I would have to pick being the "one who is beloved" for selfish reasons.  I don't want to be the one who ends up with the broken heart.

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Sorry to anyone else for straying off the subject al little.

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If the feeling wasn't mutual I would have to pick being the "one who is beloved" for selfish reasons.  I don't want to be the one who ends up with the broken heart.
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Being the one that is loved.....not a thing in the world is a better feeling!! ;)

i think all humans rather they admit or not, in some way are calling out for love. I could not choose one. For like one of my poems reads:
for beyond your self,
and all of your pride,
theres a need for love,
that you cannot hide.

so happy valentines day yall, and may we all find our one true love.   :)

Tough one! There both great feelings if you know that the feeling is MOOOTUAL!!! ;) But if I had to pick one.................I guess being the one who loves. (Its better to give than to receive.)
I change my mind. ::) Being loved is the best!

I have been in both situations (I like the one I am in best-it is VERY mutual!  ;D ) However, I would have say being the one who is loved. There have been two that I can think of off hand who loved me but I didn't love them back. I was kind to them and they did treat me very good. One guy would have even divorced his wife if I gave him the go-ahead. I didn't feel too comfortable about that. But I have to admit, it was deffinately a great ego-booster.

As for loving and not being loved back, that hurts. You just want this person and thoughts of them just fills all your time and you become obsessed. You find yourself, being in places at certain times just to see that person. This is what some people refer to as being stalked. I would have to say, it is not very heathy.




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I have loved someone who did not return the feeling and I did not stalk them. I realized it was a never to be situation, and although it hurt me I moved on.

I have had people say they love me and I did not return the feeling. I know that it hurt them deeply, who would want to cause that kind of pain?

Of course, you have to question if it is real love in the first place, as if it isn't mutual.....is it truly love?

I think it's better to be the one who loves.  It's too troubling to know someone loves you and you don't reciprocate the feeling.

I guess it depends on the kind of love you're talking about.  Family love?  Love between friends?  But I assume you mean "I love you, let's start a family" kind of love.

Both options suck.  But for family and friends, I would rather be the one who loved.  For the other kind of love, I would rather be the one who was loved because I know I would be aware of the situation and I could make it as painless for the other person as possible (at least I hope).