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Subject: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: ADH13 on 04/03/11 at 12:05 am



Do any of you guys ever miss sleeping alone?

Don't get me wrong... there is nothing wrong with my marriage and this is in no way any reflection on my husband... but man, once in awhile I really want to sleep alone so I can take up the whole bed if I want to, not be elbowed, bumped, kicked, snored at, have my blanket pulled off of me, etc...

Sharing a bed was one of the most difficult adjustments I had to make when I got married...

Have any of you guys ever just slept in another room (or expressed a desire to) without it being because of a fight or something?  How did it go over?  I don't want my husband to feel like he's doing anything wrong... not sure what to do... part of the problem is that I am a really light sleeper, and any little thing will wake me up.

Just curious if any of you have gone through this...





Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: gibbo on 04/03/11 at 3:30 am

Haha... Yes, of course!!    I can totally understand the 'old days' .. where couples had two single beds ...that could easily be pushed together. I'd like a separate room...where I could sleep with the air conditioner on (or fan). My wife gets colder than me in winter...and I am too hot in summer (and she doesn't need the air con on). Because we have 4 kids ...there are NO spare rooms or beds... and sometimes I'll sleep on the couch just to have some air conditioning!!! 

As we get older ... we don't need to be in each others arms all the time.  Comfort and quality sleep is the name of the game!  ;)

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: 2kidsami on 04/03/11 at 8:21 am

My husband and I bought a king size bed, and we go many nights without ever bumping each other or such.  I miss the closeness of the double bed, SOMETIMES.  But if one looks at our bed, we each have our own blankets, because otherwise we fight over them.  I like to bundle them up and sleep with my legg ontop of the bundle, and I hate my feet covered.  My husband likes to make a cocoon with his blanket.  I also like to fall asleep with the tv on, my husband the radio. Yep there are still days we would sleep in different rooms.  I have been known to move to the couch to sleep.

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: Don Carlos on 04/03/11 at 10:00 am

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Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: lorac61469 on 04/03/11 at 10:37 am

We have a king bed, so we have our space.  Even when we were first married I never was much of a snuggler.  I hate the feeling of being confined (I'm claustrophobic) so snuggling works for about 10 mintues then I have to move. 

I have slept in our bed alone (when hubby goes out of town or gets up to go hunting/fishing) and I still sleep in the same spot, never moving to the middle. 

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: CatwomanofV on 04/03/11 at 11:15 am

As an adult, I had never been able to sleep comfortably next to anyone-until Carlos. We do have a king-size bed which helps. I toss & turn all the time. He usually stays on his side of the bed. So, when I want to snuggle, I move over to his side and put my arm around him and I fall right asleep-EXCEPT when I am having a hot flash and then I move to the other side of the bed where I have a lot of room to stretch out and I don't bother him at all. (And the cats get their spots on the bed, too).

I do have problems when we stay at my SIL's and use her bed-which is only a double. I can not get comfortable at all. I can handle a queen-size (which we have in our house in PR) but the king-size is so much better.

No matter what size bed we have, I probably wouldn't be able to sleep if Carlos wasn't next to me.



Cat

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: ADH13 on 04/03/11 at 11:46 am



Glad I'm not the only one. :)


My husband is actually really good about leaving me alone when I want to sleep.  He just tosses and turns alot, which I do as well. 

We have a queen sized bed... maybe I should look into getting a king... I honestly hadn't really thought about that, I was too busy thinking of where else i could sleep! :)

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: 2kidsami on 04/03/11 at 2:08 pm



Glad I'm not the only one. :)


My husband is actually really good about leaving me alone when I want to sleep.  He just tosses and turns alot, which I do as well. 

We have a queen sized bed... maybe I should look into getting a king... I honestly hadn't really thought about that, I was too busy thinking of where else i could sleep! :)
King is wonderful... Basically it is two extended length twins pushed together,  Everyone has plenty of space. Can snuggle if need be, and still have space when snuggling is not a priority

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: Gis on 04/04/11 at 7:54 am

I LOVE sleeping alone! When Himself is away I make up a fresh bed and usually wake up lying diagonally across it!  ;D

Himself loves to snuggle but he is INSANELY hot so I usually shove him off after a couple of minutes because I'm expiring from the heat.  He has actually had medical tests because he is so hot all the time but they couldn't find any particular reason, it's just him apparently.  ::)

On a more serious note he also suffers from night terrors, thankfully not so often these days, but that does not make for a peaceful night I can tell you. :-\\ 

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: seamermar on 04/04/11 at 3:05 pm

It seems English people is only noble while sleeping, I mean queen and king size of beds reminds me the only thing we can do as a queen and king is to sleep. J/K :P

Our bed is shorter than queen size, and we still have room for someone else by our side,  ;) Stop you dirty minds!! >:(
I mean, once in a while one of our kids make a bound to our room to see how things are between Mom and Dad and stay with us to snuggle and laugh, mainly sunday morning.

As we aren't too tall, we don't need a large bed at all. Besides we love to play chair a lot.
What does it mean ?  :o Well let me try to tell you... sometimes I am the chair-man, not a president but a snuggling pal on bed, for she could fit on me the best, others it's she who becomes chair frame to let me sit on her. It depends on what side needs some warm, back or breast.

That's in winter time, of course. For when winter's over and cold weather is no longer I get apart from my sweet lover, who sadly suffers from hot summers and then she only shove me away every time she finds me on her bed way.

I must say I usually sleep away, holy tug ! when I'm at work, then I miss her mistreatments a lot  :(

As well on bed we need some time on our own, don't feel like satan, we dream of falling in love, but also we need fall asleep without a log to cut our dreams  :P :P
BTW .......   there's a lot since I slept like a log  :-\\

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: seamermar on 04/04/11 at 3:12 pm


Comfort and quality sleep is the name of the game!  ;)


Now fetch me the key Gibbo , Please!

I remember to sleep well till our first son came into the world, I never slept well ever after.... :\'(

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: bookmistress4ever on 04/04/11 at 9:13 pm

I rarely am comfortable on our current Queen mattress.  It was inherited from the elderly man that owned the house before us.  I am hoping to eventually save enough for a pillow top mattress.  I have trouble breathing at night laying on my back so I often start out in bed but end up on our plush couch or my recliner.  My hubby and I don't agree on blankets either.  lol  He loves to have 2 sleeping bags and a heavy comforter on while that makes me feel like I'm sweating to death.  I usually start out laying next to him for about a hour then get up and come downstairs.  I don't necessarily think it's a statement about our relationship or anything, I think that we are both very happy together with one another... it's just I have trouble falling asleep in this bed with him.  lol  Oh who am I kidding, I have trouble falling asleep period.

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: Davester on 04/04/11 at 9:54 pm


  During the summer months, when it's hot, it's not uncommon for me to relocate to the floor next to the bed.  Just too hot to be sleeping in the same bed.  Her feelings have never been hurt by that.  Quite the contrary, in fact...

  When I was on shift work we slept alone much of the time, which was good.  Since I changed to straight day shift three years ago we've had to re-negotiate the sleepytime rules...

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: Midas on 05/01/11 at 12:42 pm

Never a problem here.  We both snore.  So if I can't sleep because of it I move to the guest room bed if it's unoccupied.  It's all good.

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: 80s_cheerleader on 05/05/11 at 12:14 pm


I LOVE sleeping alone! When Himself is away I make up a fresh bed and usually wake up lying diagonally across it!   ;D

Himself loves to snuggle but he is INSANELY hot so I usually shove him off after a couple of minutes because I'm expiring from the heat.  He has actually had medical tests because he is so hot all the time but they couldn't find any particular reason, it's just him apparently.  ::)

Maybe he's a werewolf ;)

Seriously, though, some people just naturally have a higher body temperature than others....mine is normally between 99-99.5oF ("normal" is 98.6), but they think that's because of my autoimmune disorder...

Back to the original question:
Yes, I enjoy it when hubby's not in the bed with me and have gone to sleep elsewhere, but that's because he snores.  He also travels quite a bit for work so I get the bed to myself.  He doesn't travel as much as he used to so it's not quite as often, but it's nice when he does....not that I don't love him, but I can't fall asleep when he's snoring ;)

Subject: Re: Question for the married (or living with SO)

Written By: King Tut on 08/12/11 at 11:18 pm

I enjoy the odd time I can sleep alone. You can move around, not be woken up by someone's snoring, or trips to the washroom. Nice to snuggle up into a blanket all on your own, without someone else tugging it back.

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