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Subject: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Don Carlos on 06/13/04 at 4:36 pm

Since Vermont passed its Civil Unions law and the Mass supreme court ruled it unconsitutional to deny gay couples the right to marry this has become a flashpoint in the cultural wars.  What say you?

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Junior on 06/13/04 at 5:10 pm

Dictionary.com defines marriage as "the legal union of a man and woman as husband and wife". So, under that definition, I would be in full support of gay marriage. However, if one describes marriage as a religious union, then I would be for same-sex "civil unions".

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Bobby on 06/13/04 at 5:22 pm

I suppose I'm agreeing with Junior. I don't really have a strong view on the subject, Carlos (hence why I didn't vote in the poll).

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Powerslave on 06/13/04 at 6:51 pm

Well I like to look at this as if it affected me directly. If I was gay, and I met someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, I'd like to be afforded the same rights as everyone else to marry that person and have the same legal rights as any other couple. Denying people the right to marry someone they love simply because they are gay is discriminatory and a dereliction of basic human rights. Marriage should be defined as the legal union of a couple. Gender specifics should not enter into it.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: MaxwellSmart on 06/13/04 at 6:52 pm


Since Vermont passed its Civil Unions law and the Mass supreme court ruled it unconsitutional to deny gay couples the right to marry this has become a flashpoint in the cultural wars.テ窶堙つ What say you?

You know who says "What say you?"

I voted for civil unions giving gay couples equal privileges and protections with heterosexual marriage.  "Marriage" is a religious institution and tradation is a little trickier.  Not sure yet where I stand on calling it "marriage."

My position on most gay issues is that I'm not gay, and it's none of my business how others run their lives.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: CatwomanofV on 06/13/04 at 7:12 pm

I voted gay marriage. I have always believe that gays should have the same rights that hetersexuals have. If two people of the same sex want to get married, it will not hurt me or society if they are allowed to do so.



Cat

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Powerslave on 06/13/04 at 7:24 pm



My position on most gay issues is that I'm not gay, and it's none of my business how others run their lives.


Unfortunately this is the mentality that clouds the thinking on many issues: I'm not gay/black/Islamic/female/disabled, and it's none of my business. The fact is that people make it their business, and then lobby or legislate based purely on their own opinions, without thought or care for the opinions of the people they are imposing their opinions on. The issue of gay marriages should be examined from the point of view of gay people. It should't be just imposed on them by people who don't understand it.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: SuperFreak on 06/13/04 at 7:28 pm


I voted gay marriage. I have always believe that gays should have the same rights that hetersexuals have. If two people of the same sex want to get married, it will not hurt me or society if they are allowed to do so.



Cat
I feel the same way CatwomanofV. I also am really sick and tired of people like Rosie O'Donnell for being a braggert about, first her huge donation to victims of the Twin Towers tragedy and then for her gay union. IF i ever marry i will not publicize it for the world to know. If we gays want to be treated equal then i feel we should act like any other heterosexuals and just enjoy our lives. I also am tired of the gays who ask for equality yet want special rights as a minority.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Powerslave on 06/13/04 at 7:36 pm



I feel the same way CatwomanofV. I also am really sick and tired of people like Rosie O'Donnell for being a braggert about, first her huge donation to victims of the Twin Towers tragedy and then for her gay union. IF i ever marry i will not publicize it for the world to know. If we gays want to be treated equal then i feel we should act like any other heterosexuals and just enjoy our lives. I also am tired of the gays who ask for equality yet want special rights as a minority.


But don't you agree that gays deserve the same rights as people who are not gay? I don't agree with the hypocrisy that exists within the gay community in which, on one hand, they want to be treated the same way as everyone else, but at the same time expect different treatment because they're gay. Gays should have the same rights as others, not more and certainly not less, and if they are to have the same rights, they should be allowed to marry.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: MaxwellSmart on 06/13/04 at 7:38 pm




Unfortunately this is the mentality that clouds the thinking on many issues: I'm not gay/black/Islamic/female/disabled, and it's none of my business. The fact is that people make it their business, and then lobby or legislate based purely on their own opinions, without thought or care for the opinions of the people they are imposing their opinions on. The issue of gay marriages should be examined from the point of view of gay people. It should't be just imposed on them by people who don't understand it.

Good point!
:)

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Just visiting for now.. on 06/13/04 at 7:46 pm


I voted "other" as I think they should do the first 3.テ窶堙つ Regardless, they should be given the same rights as any other "couple".


I tend to agree with that.テ窶堙つ I personally haven't got as problem with homosexuals "marrying", but it was pointed out to me that since marraige itself is a religious ceremony, and ifテ窶堙つ religion is against homosexuality, then a civil union should do the trick--IF it will allow for the couples to be recongnized as legal and binding--same rights as heterosexual married couples.テ窶堙つ I don't think they deserve special rights, but they should have equalテ窶堙つ rights.テ窶堙つ Just because it's not my thing, I don't see why it would cause a problem for "humanity".テ窶堙つ Now THAT attitude annoys me. 

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Dagwood on 06/13/04 at 7:51 pm



I feel the same way CatwomanofV. I also am really sick and tired of people like Rosie O'Donnell for being a braggert about, first her huge donation to victims of the Twin Towers tragedy and then for her gay union. IF i ever marry i will not publicize it for the world to know. If we gays want to be treated equal then i feel we should act like any other heterosexuals and just enjoy our lives. I also am tired of the gays who ask for equality yet want special rights as a minority.


I agree with you 100%, Superfreak!

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: SuperFreak on 06/13/04 at 8:00 pm




But don't you agree that gays deserve the same rights as people who are not gay? I don't agree with the hypocrisy that exists within the gay community in which, on one hand, they want to be treated the same way as everyone else, but at the same time expect different treatment because they're gay. Gays should have the same rights as others, not more and certainly not less, and if they are to have the same rights, they should be allowed to marry.
I thought i made that point clear, Powerslave. I DO agree.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Powerslave on 06/13/04 at 8:07 pm




I don't think they deserve special rights, but they should have equalテ窶堙つ rights.テ窶堙つ


I agree. What I'm wondering now though is whether marriage is stirctly a religious ceremony. Certainly the tradition of marriage stems from religious rites and ceremonies, but so do many things in society. My wife and I had a civil wedding, but we're still considered "married" and the ceremony was still a "marriage" even though there was no formal religion involved. I don't think this issue should get bogged down in symantics which is the tendency of so many other discussions, but surely a "marriage" and "civil union" are technically the same thing. The real argument then should be, if the Church won't allow gay weddings in Church, should the State sanction civil marriages?

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Powerslave on 06/13/04 at 8:09 pm



I DO agree


I thought you might.  ;)

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: SuperFreak on 06/13/04 at 8:13 pm




I thought you might.テ窶堙つ ;)
Thanks for understanding, Powerslave :)

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: SuperFreak on 06/13/04 at 8:15 pm




I agree with you 100%, Superfreak!
Thank you very much, Dagwood ;)

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: GWBush2004 on 06/14/04 at 12:58 am




I agree.テ窶堙つ People who are "married" by a jp, judge, whoever, are still considered "married" even though no religious aspect may be involved.

And, can someone please explain to me what "special rights" homosexuals are asking for?テ窶堙つ I've never heard of any of them asking to be treated differently.テ窶堙つ All I've ever known is that they want to be treated the same as anyone else.


Sheesh, I'm sorry but you cannot have a small minority on the country trying to change what has been the same for 6,000 years.テ窶堙つ Here is a new ABC article:

Marriage Amendments
Opinions Split Over Amendment to Ban Same-Sex Marriages

Analysis
by David Morris



''June 11テδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「竄ャツ Public support for a constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriages has grown in the last month, leaving the nation split down the middle as President Bush announced his support again today for an amendment.テ窶堙つ



Forty-six percent of Americans favor an amendment, while 45 percent say the states should be left to make their own laws on the issue. Just a month ago, by contrast, 58 percent wanted it left to the states but many now feel the amendment is the only way to stop Massachusetts.テ窶堙つ Much of the change has occurred in the West テδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「竄ャツ an apparent backlash to the same-sex marriages now occurring in San Francisco.

Apart from views on a constitutional amendment, opposition to homosexual marriages remains firm. Sixty-five percent in this ABCNEWS/Washington Post poll say they should be illegal, steady since last fall. And the intensity of sentiment is twice as strong among opponents: Forty-nine percent of Americans feel "strongly" that same-sex marriages should be illegal, while just 25 percent "strongly" want them legal.

テ窶堙つ
Sampling, data collection and tabulation for this poll were done by TNS Intersearch.
Still, there's a closer division on civil unions for gay couples, with 45 percent in favor and 48 percent opposed. And the intensity of sentiment on civil unions テδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「竄ャツ which Bush today said should be left to the states テδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「竄ャツ is less lopsided than it is on gay marriage.

Bush and Kerry oppose same-sex marriage, but the Democrats also oppose a constitutional amendment to ban it. John Kerry supports legal civil unions; Dennis Kucinich supports domestic partner benefits for same-sex couples but has not taken a position on civil unions, saying it should be up to the states.

Bush, too, hasn't endorsed civil unions, but said today that states should be allowed "to make their own choices in defining legal arrangements other than marriage." In effect, he's splitting the difference on this issue テδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「竄ャツ proposing to ban gay marriages but leaving civil unions up to the states テδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「竄ャツ not unlike his half-a-loaf position on stem-cell research.''


---A 2/3rds majority is HUGE.テ窶堙つ Also in my opinion when it comes to the amendment to ban gay marriage I was against, but now I am for it mostly because its the only way to stop activist judges.テ窶堙つ I mean Massachusetts making gay marriage legal in that state has had a backlash, Ohio has banned gay marriage in their state constitution, Georgia is on the verge on it (the senate is up for a re-vote, it failed 117-48 last time, it needs 120 to pass, but they are voting on it again soon.)テ窶堙つ And Mississippi is going to vote to ban gay marriage in that state come November, and according to a CNN poll its set to pass with 72% of the vote.テ窶堙つ Now as for the amendment, I don't think it will pass, I do think it can get the 38 required states to ban it, but not the 2/3rds majority in the house and senate.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: gumbypiz on 06/14/04 at 1:25 am




Sheesh, I'm sorry but you cannot have a small minority on the country trying to change what has been the same for 6,000 years.テ窶堙つ 


???
Small minority or not, why should any minority be denied the same rights as others? Where do you get the 6,000 year number?
6,000 years or a million, the length of a tradition (or injustice) does not mean that it is right or cannot and should not be changed. ::)

So, by your reasoning, if slavery had lasted long enough in this country, say 6,000 years, it should've not been abolished?  ::) 
Please spare me this nonsense, I'm sure you have a better defense or reason than that...

BTW, news polls are complete bulls***. They mean nothing and can be massaged and manipulated so easily.  Try and support your position by your own words instead of using the lame words of the corrupted media.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: GWBush2004 on 06/14/04 at 1:37 am




So, by your reasoning, if slavery had lasted long enough in this country, say 6,000 years, it should've not been abolished?テ窶堙つ ::)テ窶堙つ テ窶堙つ
Please spare me this nonsense, I'm sure you have a better defense or reason than that...

BTW, news polls are complete bulls***. They mean nothing and can be massaged and manipulated so easily.テ窶堙つ Try and support your position by your own words instead of using the lame words of the corrupted media.



テ窶堙つ テ窶堙つOh come on.テ窶堙つ I think any rational thinking person can see a difference between slavery and same-sex marriages.テ窶堙つ Thats like saying ''hey people 6,000 years ago breathed air, do we still need to be doing that?テ窶堙つ Its outdated.''テ窶堙つ And listen I thought i'd get that poll response if I quoted a Fox News poll so I find a liberal poll and it still gets shot down.テ窶堙つ ALL polls, liberal, independent, or conservative show at least 62% against gay marriage, that ABC/Washington post, CNN, Fox News, Gallup, Pew, Zogby, and Mason dixon polling.テ窶堙つ Are you trying to say EVERY SINGLE ONE of those polls are corrupt?テ窶堙つ I highly doubt.テ窶堙つ Gay marriage is a little more accepted today because of that corrupt media you speak of.テ窶堙つ Shows like Will&Grace, Queer eye for the straight guy, Bravo, Lifetime, and that new all-gay channel coming out in March of 2005 all do what?テ窶堙つ Show positive images of gay people.テ窶堙つ I'm not saying thats bad, its just why more people today support gay marriage then maybe 10 years ago.テ窶堙つ Lets say I made a new show called ''Bart and Frank'', a show about 2 gay men who drive around and beat people up for no reason.テ窶堙つ Do you think that show would get on the liberal-controlled media?テ窶堙つ Heck no, because it puts gay people in a different light, and like all people of all races, creeds, colors, sexes, religions, and whatever there are good and bad people.

Just for the record, the highest support for gay marriage comes from the CNN poll which shows only 62% are AGAINST gay marriage, the lowest support is the pew poll that shows 71% of americans are AGAINST gay marriage.  The other polls I mentioned above are all between the 62% and the 71% margin, which shows just how many americans are against gay marriage.  I'm just quoting facts, don't get mad at me.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: MaxwellSmart on 06/14/04 at 2:06 am





Sheesh, I'm sorry but you cannot have a small minority on the country trying to change what has been the same for 6,000 years.テ窶堙つ Here is a new ABC article:



Some of your "traditional marriage" supporters are so crazy about it, they've had four or five of 'em!
;D

I support civil unions because I think it's good for society to support people who want to commit to each other.テ窶堙つ People who have a significant other tend to lead happier,healthier, and more productive lives.テ窶堙つ Not always, but more often than not, this is the case.テ窶堙つ The gulf that separates me, as a heterosexual, from a great many others in this country, is that I don't think homosexuality is immoral or unhealthy.テ窶堙つ To shame, ostracise, stigmatize, and criminalize homosexuality--even if you think God tells you to do it--will only encourage the negative stereotypes about homosexuality to take hold.テ窶堙つ If the morality police of the Right want to REALLY want to see our gay citizens living healthier lives, they will support Civil Unions.テ窶堙つ Furthermore, they will not pursue this hysterical Constitutional ban on gay marriage.

I've heard Evangelicals say, "love the sinner, hate the sin."テ窶堙つ However, if the only way for homosexuals to win acceptance in the eyes of the Religious Right (including Jews and Muslims) is for them to no longer be homosexuals, then they are up against an unmeetable requirement. It seems to me the Religious Right prefers it this way, because in order to show their piety, they need sinners to condemn.

Make no bones about it.テ窶堙つ This proposed amendement to ban gay marriage is ANTI-GAY.テ窶堙つ It is not about protecting the sacred institution of marriage.テ窶堙つ If you want to protect marriage, wouldn't it make more sense to propose an amendment to ban divorce ?テ窶堙つ In some demographics, the divorce rate is well over 50%!テ窶堙つ What about doing something rein in all this separation among married couples?テ窶堙つ They don't even bother to get divorced, they just move out and carry on their hank-panky in different quarters.テ窶堙つ Why not place adulterers under house arrest?テ窶堙つ Make sure the old man stays at home with the wife and kids via GPS technology!

The heterosexuals have made a total mockery of "traditional marriage" and all it entails,* and Americans are worried about homosexuals mucking it up?テ窶堙つ If every gay couple who wanted to get married was able to get married, the total might be as high as 2% of the entire population.テ窶堙つ All this tiny minority wants to do is get hitched, set up house, mind their own business, and live their lives.テ窶堙つ The reason they parade and protest is because guys like George W. Bush want the government to forbid their pursuit of happiness!

If the conservatives would just let go and let gay, all this public ballyhoo would disappear OVER NIGHT!テ窶堙つ The gay community would just live their lives like everybody else.テ窶堙つ No more would Mr. and Mrs. Righteous need fret over awkward questions from little Johnny and Mary, such as "Why are those men wearing tutus and marching down the street holding hands."

I have determined the people leading the charge for this "Gay Marriage Amendment' are bigots.テ窶堙つ They don't like homosexuals.テ窶堙つ They want to exclude homosexuals from the mainstream because, like all bigots, they feel threatened !!!
It will be a glorious day in America when no peaceful, law abiding citizen has to fear the intonation, "That kinda stuff don't go 'round here, boy!"

*Take the main propenent of the "Contract with America," Newt Gingrich.テ窶堙つ He had several mistresses, and divorced his wife while she was dying of cancer.テ窶堙つ That's right.テ窶堙つ He marched into the hospital, bimbo in tow, and gave the old lady the papers right there.テ窶堙つ So much for "Until death due us part."テ窶堙つ Sounds like another "Newt Deal" to me!

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: gumbypiz on 06/14/04 at 2:38 am




テ窶堙つ テ窶堙つOh come on.テ窶堙つ I think any rational thinking person can see a difference between slavery and same-sex marriages.テ窶堙つ Thats like saying ''hey people 6,000 years ago breathed air, do we still need to be doing that?テ窶堙つ Its outdated.''テ窶堙つ And listen I thought i'd get that poll response if I quoted a Fox News poll so I find a liberal poll and it still gets shot down.テ窶堙つ ALL polls, liberal, independent, or conservative show at least 62% against gay marriage, that ABC/Washington post, CNN, Fox News, Gallup, Pew, Zogby, and Mason dixon polling.テ窶堙つ Are you trying to say EVERY SINGLE ONE of those polls are corrupt?テ窶堙つ I highly doubt.テ窶堙つ Gay marriage is a little more accepted today because of that corrupt media you speak of.テ窶堙つ Shows like Will&Grace, Queer eye for the straight guy, Bravo, Lifetime, and that new all-gay channel coming out in March of 2005 all do what?テ窶堙つ Show positive images of gay people.テ窶堙つ I'm not saying thats bad, its just why more people today support gay marriage then maybe 10 years ago.テ窶堙つ Lets say I made a new show called ''Bart and Frank'', a show about 2 gay men who drive around and beat people up for no reason.テ窶堙つ Do you think that show would get on the liberal-controlled media?テ窶堙つ Heck no, because it puts gay people in a different light, and like all people of all races, creeds, colors, sexes, religions, and whatever there are good and bad people.

Just for the record, the highest support for gay marriage comes from the CNN poll which shows only 62% are AGAINST gay marriage, the lowest support is the pew poll that shows 71% of americans are AGAINST gay marriage.テ窶堙つ The other polls I mentioned above are all between the 62% and the 71% margin, which shows just how many americans are against gay marriage.テ窶堙つ I'm just quoting facts, don't get mad at me.


Yes, any rational person can see a difference between gay marriage and slavery, BUT your response was
テδ「テ「窶堋ャテ窶彜heesh, I'm sorry but you cannot have a small minority on the country trying to change what has been the same for 6,000 years.テδ「テ「窶堋ャテつ to 80's cheerleaders question of What "special rights" homosexuals are asking for?
...and I was using an irrational example to show just how nonsensical that was, and obviously you agree that it was silly, but you still havenテδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「窶楪「t said why you used this as a response as it is not even close to being validテδ「テ「窶堋ャテつヲ

BTW I DO BELIEVE ALL NEWS POLL ARE CORRUPT & INACCURATE. CNN, FOX, MSN, CHRISTIAN-SCIENCE MONITOR, NY TIMES, LA TIMES, WASH POST OR WHATEVER.

Iテδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「窶楪「m not mad at you, just surprised that you give so much credibility to sources that have PROVED their unreliability in the past on numerous occasions. Anyone who has taken a logic or statistics course can easily explain how polls do not reflect the actual sampling of people that they claim to, or do not (deceptively or not) represent all those that have an opinion on the subject.
How the news media (or anyone for that matter) conduct their polls, phone calls, man on the street, on-line, etc always misses many of those who are not able to participate for one reason or another, and therefore is suspect.  Entire sections & classes of racial, social (wealthy & poor, liberal & conservative) get left out. They simply cannot be accurate. I do not trust or put much faith in them and can show easily how they are skewed (again knowingly or not) for or against an issue or position. Did they poll the Broadway area of Long Beach, Columbus, OH, Chicago, or Venice Beach or did they ask people that were on the street in Manhattan or Wash, D.C.? What time of day? Were these people married, single, gay, rich, poor, black, Asian, Latino, white? It all makes a difference.

Also, in case you werenテδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「窶楪「t aware, I am not テδ「テ「窶堋ャテ窶彗 liberalテδ「テ「窶堋ャテつ and I think (as many do) that Queer Eye, Will & Grace and their ilk are not particularly good examples of gays and their テδ「テ「窶堋ャテ窶徑ifestyleテδ「テ「窶堋ャテつ. TV being an good medium in which to stereotype all minorities equally, I do not believe all gays are good designers or have good taste nor are they irresponsible  foul mouthed and spout non-appropriate double-entendres. These shows are trash, and in the end will probably do gays more harm than good.

And your Bart & Frank show? HBO will pick it up as a mid-season replacement for the Sopranos. The publicity of the show alone would be worth the ratings, or havenテδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「窶楪「t you figured out how the minds of sleazy TV execs work yet? If you want proof, watch an episode of Queer as Folk or the L word for a negative portrayal of gays, theyテδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「窶楪「re already a hit on Showtime.

When it really comes down to it, the question should not be if you are for or against gay marriage or civil unions, it should be how long before they will be commonplace.  Despite all the hub-bub, it will and is happening; it will be a non-issue soon.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: GWBush2004 on 06/14/04 at 3:56 am

Alright let me say I am for civil unions.  Don't let my stance on gay marriage fool you.  Here is what I think:

Gay marriage- Should be banned on the federal level, I don't like that but I feel its the only way to stop activist judges and mayors like Massachusetts supreme court and Gavin Newsom.

Civil unions- I have no problem with, should be left up to the states, the ones like California and Vermont who want them can have them, the ones that don't shouldn't have to like Ohio and Georgia.

Defense of Marriage act- I agree with this.  It means a state does not have to reconize another states' marriage laws.  For example someone from Ohio can't drive up to Massachusetts, get married, go back to Ohio and still be married, only states that allow gay marriage (and its currently only one, Massachusetts) and states that want to reconize a Massachusetts state marriage license can like California and New York.  This to me makes sense, since I KNOW my Georgia state CC permit ( which means I can carry a handgun with my all the time in Georgia and it doesn't have to be viewable to anyone, even the police) would not be allowed in ANY other state other then Georgia so why should another states' marriage license be reconized in states that don't want to reconize it?

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: MaxwellSmart on 06/14/04 at 8:52 am




And your Bart & Frank show? HBO will pick it up as a mid-season replacement for the Sopranos. The publicity of the show alone would be worth the ratings, or havenテδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「窶楪「t you figured out how the minds of sleazy TV execs work yet? If you want proof, watch an episode of Queer as Folk or the L word for a negative portrayal of gays, theyテδ「テ「窶堋ャテ「窶楪「re already a hit on Showtime.



"Bart & Frank," sounds a little too close to "Barney Frank" to me (or "Barton Fink")!テ窶堙つ Seinfeld fans may remember an episode on which there was a thuggish gay couple.テ窶堙つ IIRC, they start stealing a dresser off the sidewalk before Kramer can move it into his apartment.テ窶堙つ When Kramer confronts them, they threaten him.テ窶堙つ They appear later in the episode for some kind of punchline, I haven't seen it in a while, so I don't remember what it was.
;D

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: GWBush2004 on 06/14/04 at 8:58 am



Some of your "traditional marriage" supporters are so crazy about it, they've had four or five of 'em!
;D




Yes, I know their are a TON of people who get married and divorce like crazy.  I kinda wish there was a marriage limit for married couples, like ''three strikes, you're out!''  Makes me wonder who public enemy #1 to marriage is: gay couples or J Lo.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: philbo on 06/14/04 at 10:05 am


I kinda wish there was a marriage limit for married couples, like ''three strikes, you're out!''  Makes me wonder who public enemy #1 to marriage is: gay couples or J Lo.

Rush Limbaugh? ;)


To me, it's all a question of semantics.
...
Let them call it what they want, as long as they get the same rights and privileges as the rest of us.

Well said.  Couldn't agree more.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: oddxsocks on 06/14/04 at 12:36 pm

i voted "for gay marriage."  just because it doesn't affect me doesn't mean it's right to deny others that right.



I feel the same way CatwomanofV. I also am really sick and tired of people like Rosie O'Donnell for being a braggert about, first her huge donation to victims of the Twin Towers tragedy and then for her gay union. IF i ever marry i will not publicize it for the world to know. If we gays want to be treated equal then i feel we should act like any other heterosexuals and just enjoy our lives. I also am tired of the gays who ask for equality yet want special rights as a minority.

agreed. :)

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 1:29 pm


テ窶堙つ Also in my opinion when it comes to the amendment to ban gay marriage I was against, but now I am for it mostly because its the only way to stop activist judges.テ窶堙つ


Those "activist" judges are only applying laws passed by the people and their legislators.

If a state has one law saying the government cannot differentiate by gender, and another law basing qualifications for "marriage" on gender, what are the judges supposed to do?

They are supposed to uphold the higher law, and in many cases, the higher law is an antidiscrimination clause or amendment in their state constitution.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: QueenAmenRa on 06/14/04 at 1:30 pm

Oh God....I had to write a 24-paragraph paper on this for my English final....( :-[  bad memories) 
Anyway, I voted outlaw gay marriages because as a Christian, I strongly believe that God created the institution of marriage for a MAN and a WOMAN.  (When he saw that Adam was lonely, did he make him another man? no) 
But you know what?  Gay people will never stop complaining and neither will atheists so I say just give them civil unions and let them have all the same "civil" rights.  Just don't abominate the title of a sacred institution.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 1:31 pm

The poll is terrible, because I think most people wouild want to select more than one option... they are not all mutually exclusive.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 1:34 pm


But you know what?テ窶堙つ Gay people will never stop complaining and neither will atheists so I say just give them civil unions and let them have all the same "civil" rights.テ窶堙つ Just don't abominate the title of a sacred institution.


If you don't want it to be abominated, you need to take it back from the government. The government can't sanctify anything; it is a secular institution for dealing with our civil interactions, not our spiritual struggles.

That means that the goverment should stop calling anything "marriage."  It can hand out unions or partnerships and let the churches perform "marriage."

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Rush on 06/14/04 at 2:02 pm


Oh God....I had to write a 24-paragraph paper on this for my English final....( :-
But you know what?テ窶堙つ Gay people will never stop complaining and neither will atheists so I say just give them civil unions and let them have all the same "civil" rights.テ窶堙つ Just don't abominate the title of a sacred institution.


I find you saying that "gay people will never stop complaining" highly offensive.テ窶堙つ Since they are just looking for equal rights.テ窶堙つ e.g. If you had a problem because someone wouldn't hire you because you were female and they told you to quit complaining when all you wanted was equal rights, I think you would find that highly offensive too.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: QueenAmenRa on 06/14/04 at 2:12 pm




Are you saying that God didn't create gay people?


God created all good things.  He created all people.  However, because Adam and Eve first sinned, everybody born on this earth sins.  That doesn't mean God likes it.  Why do you think he flooded the world?  Because he was angry with people's sin.  Why did he destroy the cities of Sodom & Gomorrha?  Because they were full of homosexuals...a SIN in God's eyes!  Just because God allows sin to happen doesn't mean that's what he wants people to do.  That's why he gave the law.  Go read you the book of Leviticus!

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: rubixgirl on 06/14/04 at 2:12 pm




If you don't want it to be abominated, you need to take it back from the government. The government can't sanctify anything; it is a secular institution for dealing with our civil interactions, not our spiritual struggles.

That means that the goverment should stop calling anything "marriage."テ窶堙つ It can hand out unions or partnerships and let the churches perform "marriage."


So if a hetero couple gets married w/ a justice of the peace and not a religious figure, would that make their union a marriage or a civil union?? ???

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Rush on 06/14/04 at 2:18 pm




God created all good things.テ窶堙つ He created all people.テ窶堙つ However, because Adam and Eve first sinned, everybody born on this earth sins.テ窶堙つ That doesn't mean God likes it.テ窶堙つ Why do you think he flooded the world?テ窶堙つ Because he was angry with people's sin.テ窶堙つ Why did he destroy the cities of Sodom & Gomorrha?テ窶堙つ Because they were full of homosexuals...a SIN in God's eyes!テ窶堙つ Just because God allows sin to happen doesn't mean that's what he wants people to do.テ窶堙つ That's why he gave the law.テ窶堙つ Go read you the book of Leviticus!


Erm.....People don't just turn gay, they are born that way.  So therefore you are saying that god created gay people.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Rush on 06/14/04 at 2:21 pm


Go read you the book of Leviticus!


If you follow that book then you must not like the disabled, minorities, gay or any other people mentioned in there which it discriminates against.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 2:33 pm


Just because God allows sin to happen doesn't mean that's what he wants people to do.テ窶堙つ That's why he gave the law.テ窶堙つ Go read you the book of Leviticus!


Leviticus is God's law. The US Constitution, the state constitution, and all the marriage laws in this country are man's law.  The states cannot use God as the authority for their laws. The highest legal authority they can recognize is the US Constitution.



So if a hetero couple gets married w/ a justice of the peace and not a religious figure, would that make their union a marriage or a civil union?? ???


What I was suggesting was that the government would only ever hand out civil unions. When you file your tax return, it would ask whether you were single or "partnered" or something to that effect. The government would stop using the label of "marriage."

The battle over the word "marriage" would then be left to the people. No doubt many (even gay couples) would refer to their relationship as a "marriage", but churches and people could decide for themselves whether they consider anyone to be "married." It would not be up to the government to dictate who is really "married" because the definition would rest with the people in the way they use it in their daily lives.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Absolutely Vile on 06/14/04 at 3:24 pm

The book of Leviticus is a load of sheesh, and is precisely what the KU KLUX KLAN uses to validate their hateful statements against people of colour, homosexuals, Jews...and anybody else they don't deem "perfect in God's eyes!!!"

Is this what some people want to believe?!?! This is exactly why I am NOT a Christian, nor will I ever be! I am physically disabled. I guess God doesn't like me! Oh well, I don't like him either! For all I care he can go to Hell! If God was so "loving" as many people are brainwashed to believe, then why would he be saying all of this stuff that's written in the book of Leviticus?

Here's an interesting site that I think EVERYONE should look at. I've posted it before on another thread a long time ago on the old board when just such a subject reared its ugly head:

http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/lev/notes.html

I think you will find it highly informative. And go look in your Bibles, folks. It's all there in black and white!

Absolutely Vile

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Just visiting for now.. on 06/14/04 at 3:40 pm




I agree. What I'm wondering now though is whether marriage is stirctly a religious ceremony. Certainly the tradition of marriage stems from religious rites and ceremonies, but so do many things in society. My wife and I had a civil wedding, but we're still considered "married" and the ceremony was still a "marriage" even though there was no formal religion involved. I don't think this issue should get bogged down in symantics which is the tendency of so many other discussions, but surely a "marriage" and "civil union" are technically the same thing. The real argument then should be, if the Church won't allow gay weddings in Church, should the State sanction civil marriages?





Thanks for noticing me!テ窶堙つ :)テ窶堙つ That was part of the reason I left this board in the first place--no one noticed me.... :\'(テ窶堙つ (Pathetic whine coming from the computer)

I know what you mean about "is it religious?",テ窶堙つ Now, my husband and I got married in a church by a retired pastor of some sort--neither of us was (or is) particularlly religious, but I know when he read the vows, God wasテ窶堙つ mentioned.テ窶堙つ

Now.テ窶堙つ For a homosexual couple, I do think that a "civil union" would do just fine, as it IS technically the same thing.テ窶堙つ They deserve all the rights that a traditional heterosexual couple have.テ窶堙つ But, if the idea behind them wanting it conducted in a church, well that would lead me to believe that they want the whole thing "approved" of by God..and if the bible says he doesn't condone gay marraige, then it would seem like they are just trying to ruffle feathers.テ窶堙つ Why??テ窶堙つYou can't change his mind!
I myself don't care if a person is gay, and I don't care if they are 'married'.テ窶堙つ If they are living together as husband and husband, or wife and wife, or WHATEVER, and they are happy and not hurting anyone else, why should I worry about it??テ窶堙つ It certainly isn't my business.テ窶堙つ I've chosen my mate, and he is a man, and I am a woman--does that make us better somehow?テ窶堙つ No.テ窶堙つ

I have relatives that are gay.テ窶堙つ They've been together probably pushing 20 years.テ窶堙つ They aren't 'married', they've had no 'civil union', and they still seem happy as clams.テ窶堙つ I think the ones from the homosexual community that are fussing so much about it are the same ones that want to shove it down everyone's throats that they ARE gay.テ窶堙つ Why is that necessary?テ窶堙つ I speak from the experience in getting a class reunion website organized...over the course of getting it together, I know of at least 2 classmates that had "come out of the closet".テ窶堙つ Their ways of "coming out" were really different, and I think, got different resposes/respect because of it.テ窶堙つ One was real calm--she'd done a lot in her life, and then mentioned, almost in passing, that she had "come out of the closet and was now celebrating ones diversity".テ窶堙つ Cool.テ窶堙つ The OTHER person made a HUGE point about talking about her "baby" (her girlfriend) and then went on..and on..and on.. about being gay.テ窶堙つ Remembering this girl had a kid during Senior year, and had gotten married right after, I guess maybe she was just trying to let us all know what had become of the life she had--but she didn't have to be so LOUD about it, you know?テ窶堙つ Another guy came to the reunion and brought his date along.テ窶堙つ It was another guy.テ窶堙つ Now, he'd never told any of us that he was gay, but after meeting his friend we pretty well deduced the situation.テ窶堙つ All I'm saying is that the one girl who acted like she was still trying to convince herself, would strike me as the type that would be out screaming outside the courthouses and stuff.テ窶堙つ Yet my relatives, together all this time, are just happy and don't feel the need to march in the gay parades to get their relationship across to the rest of the world.

And speaking as a fairly non-religious person myself---I shudder at the thought that God holding a grudge against people at all.テ窶堙つ Now to me, the true criminals, I can understand if he doesn't think much of them!テ窶堙つ BUT--I could've sworn I have heard that God and Jesus and all being forgiving entities (beings, whatever..you know what I mean!)..so why would they send somebody to hell for doing something that isn't hurting anybody else??テ窶堙つ I mean, shouldn't we all be as happy as humanely possible?テ窶堙つ I think the federal governmant should just stay out of it.テ窶堙つ If the states want to decide whether they want it legal in their state, fine.テ窶堙つ But I certainly don't think it should be outlawed or made illegal by G.W. or anyone else in that position of power.

Okay, I've ranted now.テ窶堙つ Probably made it worse (sorry!) but after getting other opinions on the subject, I just had a lot to say!テ窶堙つ ;D

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 3:45 pm


The book of Leviticus is a load of sh**, and is precisely what the KU KLUX KLAN uses to validate their hateful statements against people of colour, homosexuals, Jews...and anybody else they don't deem "perfect in God's eyes!!!"

Is this what some people want to believe?!?! This is exactly why I am NOT a Christian, nor will I ever be! I am physically disabled. I guess God doesn't like me! Oh well, I don't like him either! For all I care he can go to Hell! If God was so "loving" as many people are brainwashed to believe, then why would he be saying all of this stuff that's written in the book of Leviticus?

Here's an interesting site that I think EVERYONE should look at. I've posted it before on another thread a long time ago on the old board when just such a subject reared its ugly head:

http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/lev/notes.html

I think you will find it highly informative. And go look in your Bibles, folks. It's all there in black and white!

Absolutely Vile


As angry as you are about people using the Bible for their guidance, I wonder if you really know what is in it. (Granted, many people who use it for their guidance don't really know what it says, either.)

In the link you referenced, there were several laws and statements from Leviticus that were later nullified in the New Testament, when Peter was told to preach to the Gentiles.

Acts 10:15テ窶堙つ And the voice spake unto him again the second time, What God hath cleansed, that call not thou common.

Among other things listed on the page, it mentions "Don't have sex with animals." Are you disagreeing with this?

I'm not saying we should use Leviticus for our laws in America; I just think you're taking the wrong approach for rejecting it. It's not that the law of God is unfair or discriminatory - really, that shouldn't surprise anyone. Of course God (the God of Leviticus, anyway) discriminates based on what he thinks is right.

The fact that the Ku Klux Klan uses the Bible doesn't make it wrong, either; after all, the Ku Klux Klan probably uses toilet paper, too.

The thing is, the US law should not use Leviticus or any other part of the Bible as the basis for its laws. It should use the principles of individual rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Those are the principles that separate us from other nations, both religious and secular.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Don Carlos on 06/14/04 at 3:45 pm


Alright let me say I am for civil unions.テ窶堙つ Don't let my stance on gay marriage fool you.テ窶堙つ Here is what I think:

Gay marriage- Should be banned on the federal level, I don't like that but I feel its the only way to stop activist judges and mayors like Massachusetts supreme court and Gavin Newsom.

Civil unions- I have no problem with, should be left up to the states, the ones like California and Vermont who want them can have them, the ones that don't shouldn't have to like Ohio and Georgia.

Defense of Marriage act- I agree with this.テ窶堙つ It means a state does not have to reconize another states' marriage laws.テ窶堙つ For example someone from Ohio can't drive up to Massachusetts, get married, go back to Ohio and still be married, only states that allow gay marriage (and its currently only one, Massachusetts) and states that want to reconize a Massachusetts state marriage license can like California and New York.テ窶堙つ This to me makes sense, since I KNOW my Georgia state CC permit ( which means I can carry a handgun with my all the time in Georgia and it doesn't have to be viewable to anyone, even the police) would not be allowed in ANY other state other then Georgia so why should another states' marriage license be reconized in states that don't want to reconize it?


This example is in error unless states, like NY have passed laws outlawing the practice involved.  It has to do with the Constitutional doctrine of "Full Faith and Credit" between the states.  That's why the "Defense of Marriage Act" HAD to be passed, otherwise, every state would be required to recognize VT's Civil Unions law.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Rice_Cube on 06/14/04 at 3:46 pm

With all due respect, O Religious Ones, if God hated gay people, why would He have made them?

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Just visiting for now.. on 06/14/04 at 3:52 pm


With all due respect, O Religious Ones, if God hated gay people, why would He have made them?


Good point.テ窶堙つ But, on the other hand, I guess he made serial killers, too--so...??テ窶堙つ
Well, as they say:"...I think that god's got a sick sense of humor..."

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 3:54 pm


Now.テ窶堙つ For a homosexual couple, I do think that a "civil union" would do just fine, as it IS technically the same thing.テ窶堙つ They deserve all the rights that a traditional heterosexual couple have.テ窶堙つ But, if the idea behind them wanting it conducted in a church, well that would lead me to believe that they want the whole thing "approved" of by God..and if the bible says he doesn't condone gay marraige, then it would seem like they are just trying to ruffle feathers.テ窶堙つ Why??テ窶堙つYou can't change his mind!


What about people who are divorced wanting to have their new marriages conducted in a church and "approved" by God, even though some religions say God wouldn't approve?

You can't tell churches what to believe, except maybe when you're a member. If the Methodist church or the Non-denominational church or the Church of Happiness wants to perform gay weddings, you can't stop them.





I have relatives that are gay.テ窶堙つ They've been together probably pushing 20 years.テ窶堙つ They aren't 'married', they've had no 'civil union', and they still seem happy as clams.テ窶堙つ I think the ones from the homosexual community that are fussing so much about it are the same ones that want to shove it down everyone's throats that they ARE gay.テ窶堙つ Why is that necessary?


What is a wedding, if not a public declaration of two people's love and commitment? What would give you the right to say which couples get to publicly announce their relationships?


The OTHER person made a HUGE point about talking about her "baby" (her girlfriend) and then went on..and on..and on.. about being gay.

Have you ever stopped to consider how much straight people talk about their relationships?  How many times have you heard someone talk about their "boyfriend", their "girlfriend", their "husband", or their "wife"? The difference with gay relationships is that people don't expect them to be so open about their homosexuality, and they're not used to hearing so much about these relationships, mostly because they've been taboo up until now.

How many love songs talk about someone's "baby" that they love so much? What's so different about saying that when you're gay?

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Guest on 06/14/04 at 3:56 pm


With all due respect, O Religious Ones, if God hated gay people, why would He have made them?


So does that mean God LIKES child molesters?

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 3:56 pm


This example is in error unless states, like NY have passed laws outlawing the practice involved.テ窶堙つ It has to do with the Constitutional doctrine of "Full Faith and Credit" between the states.テ窶堙つ That's why the "Defense of Marriage Act" HAD to be passed, otherwise, every state would be required to recognize VT's Civil Unions law.


Actually, since the "Full Faith and Credit" clause is part of the Constitution, wouldn't that still override the "Defense of Marriage Act"?  (That's why people are talking about a marriage amendment; that way, the definition would be in the Constitution and there would be no higher law to override it.)

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Don Carlos on 06/14/04 at 3:56 pm

I like the idea of rethinking vocabulary by eliminating the word marriage from public law and replacing with another word, thus separating the civil recongition of a committed union from the religious tites some folks use to publiclly proclaim such a union.  Good thought.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Just visiting for now.. on 06/14/04 at 4:15 pm




What about people who are divorced wanting to have their new marriages conducted in a church and "approved" by God, even though some religions say God wouldn't approve?

You can't tell churches what to believe, except maybe when you're a member. If the Methodist church or the Non-denominational church or the Church of Happiness wants to perform gay weddings, you can't stop them.






What is a wedding, if not a public declaration of two people's love and commitment? What would give you the right to say which couples get to publicly announce their relationships?




Have you ever stopped to consider how much straight people talk about their relationships?テ窶堙つ How many times have you heard someone talk about their "boyfriend", their "girlfriend", their "husband", or their "wife"? The difference with gay relationships is that people don't expect them to be so open about their homosexuality, and they're not used to hearing so much about these relationships, mostly because they've been taboo up until now.

How many love songs talk about someone's "baby" that they love so much? What's so different about saying that when you're gay?


#1.テ窶堙つ I am well aware that different churches have different opinions about marraige and divorce.テ窶堙つ And I think each has the right to do so.テ窶堙つ That's why there are so many different churches to choose from. Pick the one that believes the way you do, and let it be.テ窶堙つ Not a tough call, in my opinion.テ窶堙つ But as I said, I don't have a church.

#2テ窶堙つ Okay. I didn't say people shouldn't "publicly announce their relationships".テ窶堙つ As I said, I am married, and I think it was even in our local paper for everybody to see!テ窶堙つ I NEVER said it wasn't alright for people to "declare their love and commitment".テ窶堙つ They want to put it in the paper, go for it.テ窶堙つ I have no problem with that.テ窶堙つ But if you read my mention of that very closely, you'll see that I was discussing a specific person who was telling US all about it.テ窶堙つ Just say you're gay if you want to.テ窶堙つ But talk about something OTHER than just being gay, as well.テ窶堙つ How's your kid?テ窶堙つ Where do you live? etc., etc.テ窶堙つ It was a class reunion for pete's sake!テ窶堙つ I know we on the reunion committee didn't care about who you sleep with! We didn't have any married hetero couples going on and on about how straight they were.

#3 Yes, I am also well aware that people talk about their relationships.テ窶堙つ Of course.テ窶堙つ All I was doing was comparing the different approaches about being gay.テ窶堙つ I couldn't care less, actually.

#4テ窶堙つ I didn't say I had an issue with a person calling their same sex partner their baby!テ窶堙つ Go ahead, whatever floats your boat.テ窶堙つ I was simply pointing out THE DIFFERENCES in the way that these girls did it IN OUR CASE.


Look, I wasn't trying to start a fight.テ窶堙つ I was trying to put in my $.02 about a topic, and in what context I had to gather information/opinions from.テ窶堙つ If these conversations have just become a place to attack every little thing out of context, at least I will know that the next time, and not comment on that post on those anymore.テ窶堙つ :-X

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 4:29 pm

Hey, sorry if I sounded hostile at all; it really wasn't what I intended. I'm just trying to compare what you're faulting in someone's gay relationship with very similar things that happen all the time with straight relationships.

#1. It sounded as though you were saying gay people shouldn't be asking churches to recognize their marriages. Well, the churches don't have to, but that doesn't mean that the gay couples can't ask. It should be between those people and their church, and shouldn't really involve the law or even other people from other churches. (Sure, they have the right to stand outside on the sidewalk protesting what they think is an abomination, but they can't keep the church from performing the ceremony.)

#2. I suppose this could be similar to my distaste for hearing people talk so much about their sex lives - the only thing I'm not quite so sure about is whether she was talking to you about all the gay sex she was having, or if she just talked about her relationship and you couldn't help being reminded the whole time that it was a gay relationship.

See, when a guy says, "My girlfriend and I went on vacation for a few days, we saw some interesting places, and we stayed in a nice hotel", and a girl says the exact same thing, some people read more about sex into the latter one because it's a gay relationship and for a lot of people hearing "gay" forces them to think about "gay sex". It's something that maybe gets glossed over more in straight relationships, or doesn't bother people so much, because they're used to hearing about it.


#4. Okay, sure, a couple of couples had different ways of talking to you about their gayness and/or their relationships.

If a guy kept talking about his girlfriend, would you have had the same reaction? (I mean, granted, I don't know what all this girl told you about. If it was just about how much she was in love with her girlfriend, it's not really so much about being gay as it is about being happy in a relationship. Of course, some people go through such a tough time when they come out of the closet and struggle with themselves and their place in society, it's a bit understandable that they might talk differently about themselves and their private lives - especially if they have a feeling that they're finally able to be accepted for who they are and they end up releasing a lot of pent-up self-doubt by becoming more and more open about who they are and what they do.)

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Just visiting for now.. on 06/14/04 at 5:10 pm


Hey, sorry if I sounded hostile at all; it really wasn't what I intended. I'm just trying to compare what you're faulting in someone's gay relationship with very similar things that happen all the time with straight relationships.

#1. It sounded as though you were saying gay people shouldn't be asking churches to recognize their marriages. Well, the churches don't have to, but that doesn't mean that the gay couples can't ask. It should be between those people and their church, and shouldn't really involve the law or even other people from other churches. (Sure, they have the right to stand outside on the sidewalk protesting what they think is an abomination, but they can't keep the church from performing the ceremony.)

#2. I suppose this could be similar to my distaste for hearing people talk so much about their sex lives - the only thing I'm not quite so sure about is whether she was talking to you about all the gay sex she was having, or if she just talked about her relationship and you couldn't help being reminded the whole time that it was a gay relationship.

See, when a guy says, "My girlfriend and I went on vacation for a few days, we saw some interesting places, and we stayed in a nice hotel", and a girl says the exact same thing, some people read more about sex into the latter one because it's a gay relationship and for a lot of people hearing "gay" forces them to think about "gay sex". It's something that maybe gets glossed over more in straight relationships, or doesn't bother people so much, because they're used to hearing about it.


#4. Okay, sure, a couple of couples had different ways of talking to you about their gayness and/or their relationships.

If a guy kept talking about his girlfriend, would you have had the same reaction? (I mean, granted, I don't know what all this girl told you about. If it was just about how much she was in love with her girlfriend, it's not really so much about being gay as it is about being happy in a relationship. Of course, some people go through such a tough time when they come out of the closet and struggle with themselves and their place in society, it's a bit understandable that they might talk differently about themselves and their private lives - especially if they have a feeling that they're finally able to be accepted for who they are and they end up releasing a lot of pent-up self-doubt by becoming more and more open about who they are and what they do.)


Okay, I understand you didn't mean to sound hostile.テ窶堙つ It just came across to me that you were trying to pick a fight--and that's just not why I came here is all.テ窶堙つ :)

I don't care if a church recongnizes a gay marraige.テ窶堙つ Some do, some don't, I would imagine.テ窶堙つ Heck my sister-in-law, though not married in a church, was MARRIED by a gay minister (or father, or reverand, or whatever he was)テ窶堙つ All I was saying was that somebody pointed out to me that the bible is against gay marriage.テ窶堙つ I just do question why, if the church/bible is against it, why would you even want to get married IN a church?テ窶堙つ I don't know--I tend to avoid people that I don't like/don't like me.テ窶堙つ Wouldn't people who think you are sinning be the same way?

She didn't ell us all about her sex life.テ窶堙つ But when I put up a questionairre, that didn't say, "Hey are you gay?", I would've thought that saying your "domestic partner", or whatever you call her, was a female, and her name was so-and-so would have been sufficient.テ窶堙つ But what she was doing that irritated us (the reunion commitee as a whole) was that she kept wanting to BE CERTAIN that we knew her "baby" was a girl named Joni(?), and she'd comment about it when there was no need to even mention your other half! And though my husband has called me "baby", I just felt like it was unneeded in that particular case.テ窶堙つ Yes, we got the point the first time, Susie (not her real name, of course!テ窶堙つ ;))...ya don't need to keep adding her in when we didn't ask about her at all.テ窶堙つ Was there nothing else for her to talk about?テ窶堙つ I mean, how sad.


If it was just about how much she was in love with her girlfriend, it's not really so much about being gay as it is about being happy in a relationship..

All I can say to that is that within a year of the reunion, she was begging I CHANGE her questionairre, because she had a new girlfriend.テ窶堙つ So how much love was it, really?テ窶堙つ

Before I step in it, that IS NOT to say straight couples have not gotten divorced-even in our class.テ窶堙つ They have.テ窶堙つ The curious thing about that particular situation was that she had previously sent me an image (picture) of she and her girlfriend CALLED theirnames.jpg.テ窶堙つ After they broke up, she wrote again, and said it WASN'T she and her ex, it was her and her current girlfriend... ???
Why was the picture named after your EX-girlfriend, then..?テ窶堙つ
I just changed the description..who am I to ask?テ窶堙つ But it really seemed STRANGE to me!テ窶堙つ :-\\

Oh....and if a hetero person had gone on and on about their "other half", even if it WAS the opposite sex, it would have bored and annoyed me just as much.テ窶堙つ :D

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 5:20 pm


somebody pointed out to me that the bible is against gay marriage.テ窶堙つ I just do question why, if the church/bible is against it, why would you even want to get married IN a church?テ窶堙つ I don't know--I tend to avoid people that I don't like/don't like me.テ窶堙つ Wouldn't people who think you are sinning be the same way?


Well, there are so many people that disagree with so many things in the Bible or other people's interpretations of the Bible, it's not surprising that some people think churches (at least their own church) shouldn't be against homosexuality. It's like the people who say they don't believe God would send anyone to hell, or the ones who say that if they live a good life they'll get into heaven, and they don't bother reading all the rules that you can find in the Bible. Different people have different interpretations, and some will even pick and choose which parts of the Bible they want to believe. If they want to make their own religion based around that, well... I guess it's up to them.



Oh....and if a hetero person had gone on and on about their "other half", even if it WAS the opposite sex, it would have bored and annoyed me just as much.テ窶堙つ :D


Yeah, it's kind of like that Seinfeld episode where they're at a party and some woman keeps saying "Have you seen my fiancテθ津つゥ? Oh dear, I seem to have lost my fiancテθ津つゥ! The poor baby!" And then Elaine gets fed up and says, "The dingo ate your baby!" and walks off.

So, yeah, that's just a problem people have with going overboard - and doesn't really have anything to do specifically with being gay or straight.テ窶堙つ ;)

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Bobby on 06/14/04 at 5:40 pm


With all due respect, O Religious Ones, if God hated gay people, why would He have made them?


I can appreciate your point, Rice Cube. I believe God (or a higher source) made people and then people became what they want to be from their own volition.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: QueenAmenRa on 06/14/04 at 5:56 pm




Erm.....People don't just turn gay, they are born that way.テ窶堙つ So therefore you are saying that god created gay people.


"Doctor?  I would like to have an amniocentesis so I can see if my baby's gay or straight..."

How many times must I say this? God created the people.  Homosexuality: nature vs. nurture?  Well, sorry folks but homosexuality is UNNATURAL!!! It is just people's pervertedness due to how they are nurtured in their culture/society/home/etc.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 6:00 pm

I wouldn't be too sure about that - especially since there are even gay animals. Were they nurtured the wrong way? ;)

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: resinchaser on 06/14/04 at 6:08 pm




"Doctor?テ窶堙つ I would like to have an amniocentesis so I can see if my baby's gay or straight..."

How many times must I say this? God created the people.テ窶堙つ Homosexuality: nature vs. nurture?テ窶堙つ Well, sorry folks but homosexuality is UNNATURAL!!! It is just people's pervertedness due to how they are nurtured in their culture/society/home/etc.


In your mind God might have created the people, but he didn't create me, so I don't live by his laws.

Ignorance is also due to how people are nurtured in their culture/society/religion etc.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: QueenAmenRa on 06/14/04 at 6:10 pm


I wouldn't be too sure about that - especially since there are even gay animals. Were they nurtured the wrong way? ;)


What's wrong with u sista?  Or are you saying gay people are animals?  Ok whatever...

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 6:18 pm


What's wrong with u sista?テ窶堙つ テ窶堙つOr are you saying gay people are animals?テ窶堙つ Ok whatever...


There are documented cases of animals that have mated with the same gender, and even some species that practice lifelong monogamy have instances of "gay" couples.

At any rate, the way the law gets decided should really have nothing to do with whether people are born gay or choose to be gay. It's all about whether the government should give everyone the legal right to choose to marry the person they want. It hinges on the government's reasons for recognizing marriage in the first place. Unless the government's reason for having legal marriage is "to do God's will", then gay people going against God's will really doesn't have anything to do with the debate.

So what is the reason for having legal marriage? What benefits does it bring to society? Why would it need to be limited to unions of one man and one woman?

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: philbo on 06/14/04 at 6:20 pm


What's wrong with u sista?  Or are you saying gay people are animals?  Ok whatever...

No, she's saying that since homosexuality has also been seen in other animals, the "nature vs nurture" argument tends to imply the former rather than the latter.

If it's "unnatural", why do we see it in the natural world?

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Junior on 06/14/04 at 7:14 pm




"Doctor?テ窶堙つ I would like to have an amniocentesis so I can see if my baby's gay or straight..."

How many times must I say this? God created the people.テ窶堙つ Homosexuality: nature vs. nurture?テ窶堙つ Well, sorry folks but homosexuality is UNNATURAL!!! It is just people's pervertedness due to how they are nurtured in their culture/society/home/etc.


So that means that if I hang around my gay friend a lot, I'll become gay too? ::)

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: SuperFreak on 06/14/04 at 7:20 pm

God didn't "Make" me a lesbian, it was all my choice

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 7:28 pm

The nature/nurture debate is irrelevant anyway.

As I said before...

the way the law gets decided should really have nothing to do with whether people are born gay or choose to be gay. It's all about whether the government should give everyone the legal right to choose to marry the person they want. It hinges on the government's reasons for recognizing marriage in the first place. Unless the government's reason for having legal marriage is "to do God's will", then gay people going against God's will really doesn't have anything to do with the debate.

So what is the reason for having legal marriage? What benefits does it bring to society? Why would it need to be limited to unions of one man and one woman?

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: MaxwellSmart on 06/14/04 at 7:31 pm

IMHO, God didn't literally make Adam and Eve.  The story of the Garden of Eden has deep theological and anthropological roots.  I think it is more useful as an allegory.  The story is symbolic.  It reveals the Original Sin of mankind, the origins of man's imperfections.  If I take it literally, I find the whole thing rather absurd.  To point to it and say "Man and Woman together, that's what God intended," is tantamount to the familiar vulgarism, "God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve"!

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 7:35 pm

Is the government's definition based on God's or not?

If not, what is the point of discussing what God says is right and wrong?

If it is based on what God said, what is it doing in our law?

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Powerslave on 06/14/04 at 7:39 pm


IMHO, God didn't literally make Adam and Eve.テ窶堙つ The story of the Garden of Eden has deep theological and anthropological roots.テ窶堙つ I think it is more useful as an allegory.テ窶堙つ The story is symbolic.テ窶堙つ It reveals the Original Sin of mankind, the origins of man's imperfections.テ窶堙つ If I take it literally, I find the whole thing rather absurd.テ窶堙つ To point to it and say "Man and Woman together, that's what God intended," is tantamount to the familiar vulgarism, "God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve"!


Don't start on this Maxwell, it's a whole other argument!  :) I can't take Genesis literally because there's too many holes in the script. Adam and Eve had two sons, and they took wives, but if Adam and Eve only had sons, where did the wives come from? Were they Adam and Eve's offsping also but unworthy of being named? If that were so and there were no other people, then Cain and Abel must have married their sisters! That would make us all the descendants of incest. Earlier in this thread, somebody said to read Leviticus, but then someone else said that most of Leviticus is redundant because of teachings in the New Testament. You can't have it both ways. Before this discussion descends even further into argument of (Christian) religious dogma, I appeal to what I said in my very first post, which pretty much amounts to treating others the way you would want to be treated. That's in the Bible too.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 7:56 pm


Adam and Eve had two sons, and they took wives, but if Adam and Eve only had sons, where did the wives come from? Were they Adam and Eve's offsping also but unworthy of being named? If that were so and there were no other people, then Cain and Abel must have married their sisters! That would make us all the descendants of incest.


That's easy to answer - women weren't important enough to be named. ;)

And for the record, I don't think the Bible says anything against incest. (David would have let one of his sons marry his half-sister, if he hadn't raped her first.)


Earlier in this thread, somebody said to read Leviticus, but then someone else said that most of Leviticus is redundant because of teachings in the New Testament.

Irrelevant (to most Christians), but not redundant. But anyway, after God told Peter that some of the old laws about "unclean" things no longer applied, Paul still preached against homosexuality - so most Christians believe that those laws or principles still apply.


Still, why are we getting back into the Biblical argument again? The government's version of marriage is already different from what's set forth in the Bible.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Powerslave on 06/14/04 at 8:15 pm




That's easy to answer - women weren't important enough to be named. ;)

And for the record, I don't think the Bible says anything against incest. (David would have let one of his sons marry his half-sister, if he hadn't raped her first.)


There are quite a few instances of incest in the Bible, however, it's not considered very socially acceptable is it? :)




Still, why are we getting back into the Biblical argument again? The government's version of marriage is already different from what's set forth in the Bible.


Exactly.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: MaxwellSmart on 06/14/04 at 8:24 pm




That's easy to answer - women weren't important enough to be named. ;)

And for the record, I don't think the Bible says anything against incest. (David would have let one of his sons marry his half-sister, if he hadn't raped her first.)



One of the most censored books from school libraries is The Holy Bible.テ窶堙つ Look, Noah got drunk on the Ark and, while drunk, was sexually molested by his son, Ham.テ窶堙つ Noah condemned Ham and his descendents to servitude forever.

Who needs Jerry Springer anway?テ窶堙つ You've got the Bible!

Philbo wrote:
No, she's saying that since homosexuality has also been seen in other animals, the "nature vs nurture" argument tends to imply the former rather than the latter.
If it's "unnatural", why do we see it in the natural world?

I'm not saying I believe this, but, from a Christian perspective animals are different from man.  Animals are innocent, they live in an "unfallen" state.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Powerslave on 06/14/04 at 8:30 pm



I'm not saying I believe this, but, from a Christian perspective animals are different from man.テ窶堙つ Animals are innocent, they live in an "unfallen" state.



You could also argue that, scientifically, animals don't understand sexuality, and humans do (or at least they try to). Animals do without knowing why. Humans do knowing why (and why they shouldn't), but do it anyway. :)

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: MaxwellSmart on 06/14/04 at 8:35 pm




You could also argue that, scientifically, animals don't understand sexuality, and humans do (or at least they try to). Animals do without knowing why. Humans do knowing why (and why they shouldn't), but do it anyway. :)

Scientifically is a different kettle of fish from theologically.  And I would argue animals have a betterall year long
!!!
:P

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: womberty on 06/14/04 at 8:37 pm


I'm not saying I believe this, but, from a Christian perspective animals are different from man.テ窶堙つ Animals are innocent, they live in an "unfallen" state.


I don't think that's accurate - the Bible teaches that everything on earth, including the animals were affected by the fall. That's why animals die, and probably also why they kill one another (I don't remember whether this was specifically covered in Genesis, though).


Now, then, back to the real question, and I'll try to get at it from a different angle:

Why should the government recognize marriage in the first place?

This country was founded on the principles of individual rights and equality. If everyone is supposed to be considered an individual under the law, why do we have this institution that lets people combine their legal identities? What is the purpose of marriage? How could the government justify it if it was challenged by single people who don't enjoy the same rights?

If you can find a good enough reason for the government to recognize marriage and give benefits related to it, then the limits on marriage should correspond to the benefits the government or society receives. If gay unions can provide the same benefits, they should not be excluded; that would be baseless discrimination.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: philbo on 06/15/04 at 5:48 am

Womberty, I believe you've stated it perfectly :)

But... (and ain't there always a "but")

I think you'll find that the government (or at least the individuals forming the govenment) will have their own views on why marriage should be recognized, some grounded in a desire for a stable relationship for the next generation and some in theology.  Which takes us back to the same cycle as we're in at the moment... which is a shame: being able to determine this sort of thing rationally would be a huge step forward for the entire human race, IMO.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: GWBush2004 on 06/15/04 at 5:53 am




I think you'll find that the government (or at least the individuals forming the govenment) will have their own views on why marriage should be recognized, some grounded in a desire for a stable relationship for the next generation and some in theology.テ窶堙つ Which takes us back to the same cycle as we're in at the moment... which is a shame: being able to determine this sort of thing rationally would be a huge step forward for the entire human race, IMO.


Whats not rational about it?テ窶堙つ I'm pretty sure Britain hasn't made gay marriages legal.テ窶堙つ Marriage has been the same way for 6,000 years, some small minority wants to change so they can have it there way reguardless of what the public thinks, and all I hear for the pro-gay marriage side is equal rights stuff.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: GWBush2004 on 06/15/04 at 5:57 am



Marriage has always been and should always remain a sacred union between a man and woman. This is the way it was intended from the beginning. After all, doesn't life really revolve around the family unit with two parents: a loving mother and father. Aren't children more properly nourished under the sanctity of a good and loving home with proper parents to guide and teach? I believe so.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: karen on 06/15/04 at 6:14 am

GWBush2004

I think you went too far there. You can not go around implying that gays and lesbians are also more likely to be paedophiles or other forms of extreme perversion.  There is no evidence of this, in fact it is probably evidence to the contrary.

You may not agree with the homosexual lifestyle.  It is not your choice, it is not my choice either but I respect people's decision to love and marry who they feel attracted to.  I think you should apologise to those people on the boards who you have offended by your bigoted accusations.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: GWBush2004 on 06/15/04 at 6:26 am



I think you'll find that the government (or at least the individuals forming the govenment) will have their own views on why marriage should be recognized, some grounded in a desire for a stable relationship for the next generation and some in theology.テ窶堙つ Which takes us back to the same cycle as we're in at the moment... which is a shame: being able to determine this sort of thing rationally would be a huge step forward for the entire human race, IMO.


Like all people who are against gay marriage are people of faith.....wise up.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: GWBush2004 on 06/15/04 at 6:27 am


GWBush2004

I think you went too far there. You can not go around implying that gays and lesbians are also more likely to be paedophiles or other forms of extreme perversion.テ窶堙つ There is no evidence of this, in fact it is probably evidence to the contrary.

You may not agree with the homosexual lifestyle.テ窶堙つ It is not your choice, it is not my choice either but I respect people's decision to love and marry who they feel attracted to.テ窶堙つ I think you should apologise to those people on the boards who you have offended by your bigoted accusations.


WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT, I NEVER IMPLIED THAT!!!!

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: karen on 06/15/04 at 6:30 am





WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT, I NEVER IMPLIED THAT!!!!
#


Only because you removed the offending post.  When I posted my message there was a huge rant about what might go on in the homes of homosexuals who were allowed to adopt children.  You asked how long it would be before they would try and have sex with the children or get the children to perform together.  Absolutely disgraceful in my opinion.  I'm glad you removed the post, now have the guts to admit it was wrong in the first place.

karen

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: GWBush2004 on 06/15/04 at 6:33 am



#


Only because you removed the offending post.テ窶堙つ When I posted my message there was a huge rant about what might go on in the homes of homosexuals who were allowed to adopt children.テ窶堙つ You asked how long it would be before they would try and have sex with the children or get the children to perform together.テ窶堙つ Absolutely disgraceful in my opinion.テ窶堙つ I'm glad you removed the post, now have the guts to admit it was wrong in the first place.

karen


Yeah you're right, but it wasn't my work in the first place.  I got it from some website, and I only read the first two paragraphs before posting it and when you pointed out what the rest of it said it freaked me out.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: karen on 06/15/04 at 6:38 am





Yeah you're right, but it wasn't my work in the first place.テ窶堙つ I got it from some website, and I only read the first two paragraphs before posting it and when you pointed out what the rest of it said it freaked me out.


O.k. Let's let it drop. 

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: GWBush2004 on 06/15/04 at 9:16 am



I would think that a child would be more properly "nourished" with 2 parents PERIOD.テ窶堙つ Whether they be 2 men, 2 women or a man and a woman.テ窶堙つ I'd much rather see them with 2 loving parents than 1.テ窶堙つ And, actually, studies have shown that homosexuals are more often excellent parents, partly because what they must go through to have a child.テ窶堙つ From preconception.com:

"Every study I've read to date indicates that children of homosexual parents have no developmental hindrances or disadvantages as compared to children of heterosexual parents," says Dr. Pepper Scwartz, professor of sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle, and author of The Gender of Sexuality. "Though the samples are small, some studies show that, because they must deal with more social stigma, children raised in lesbian households exhibit higher levels of maturity, independence, tolerance and verbal ability. There are also some indications that lesbians co-parent more than heterosexual parents, and that this may be to the child's advantage. I think it can be said with relative certainty that same-sex parenting is neither a detriment to the children of gay parents or society at large."


You know I had a long post of why this is wrong, but I removed it because it did seem a little offensive.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Absolutely Vile on 06/15/04 at 9:27 am





You know I had a long post of why this is wrong, but I removed it because it did seem a little offensive.


Offensive to whom I wonder?

Absolutely Vile

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: philbo on 06/15/04 at 9:45 am


Like all people who are against gay marriage are people of faith.....wise up.

I've not met or seen on-line anybody who is against gay marriage who is not also a "person of faith"- come to think of it, I'm pretty certain they'd all call themselves Christian.



You know I had a long post of why this is wrong, but I removed it because it did seem a little offensive.

For offensive, read "totally bigoted, inaccurate, fundamentally-flawed religiously-inpired balony" - the attempt to show homosexuality as being tantamount paedophilia is based on personal prejudice, not on any evidence whatsoever.  I wouldn't mind betting that if you did a study you'd find a higher degree of paedophilia in the church heirarchy than amongst homosexuals.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: ChuckyG on 06/15/04 at 11:06 am


You know I had a long post of why this is wrong, but I removed it because it did seem a little offensive.


In the future link to offsite articles.  Don't cut and paste them verbatem in your messages, otherwise you may find yourself no longer to post if they contain text that would be considered grounds for banning.  Proper debate is to come up with your own arguments, not recite other people's arguments as your own.

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Rush on 06/15/04 at 11:21 am





You know I had a long post of why this is wrong, but I removed it because it did seem a little offensive.

You found something thats offensive.....Well thats a first. :)

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Rush on 06/15/04 at 11:26 am


For offensive, read "totally bigoted, inaccurate, fundamentally-flawed religiously-inpired balony"


Hmmm, Bullsh*t wasn't censored on the board. Well, that's not the first time.  :P

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions

Written By: Rush on 06/15/04 at 11:27 am

If they were to enforce anti sodomy laws would that mean everyone would have to wear a butt plug?  ;D

Subject: Re: Gay marriage & civil unions